Know when it’s time to find new friends

I think it’s safe to be honest here, and say that most of us have been there? We’ve bonded and created friendships as children in school, teenagers at after school clubs, adults in university and perhaps eventually have grown closer to some colleagues who elevated our dull moments at work. Then we realise that while these people have successfully played their parts in our lives and helped create fond memories, some things are just not the same anymore. We start to notice things are becoming unbalanced and begin to wonder, is it time to find some new friends?

A subtle dread builds every time you’re around them

Cocktail hour has started, and you feel like you’d rather be anywhere else than sit around and listen to them bitch about the same self-inflicted problems you’ve cyclically provided support and solutions for. Then you start to feel guilty for even thinking like this or you simply no longer care yet, you go out with them anyway to be polite. Of course, I think the friendships that are worth saving will eventually rise to a higher frequency, but quite often, deep down you’ll know in your heart when you no longer want someone around your aura. The best thing to do in this situation is to have an honest internal self-evaluation and accept that you’ve outgrown the friendship. Keep it amicable and let it quietly run its course or have a chat with the person in question if you’re so inclined, however, don’t part on an ugly note. Always try to depart on the heart chakra by releasing them in peace, love and gratitude.

You feel like they don’t understand you

Sometimes you feel like you can share most of the trivial issues with your friends and vice versa yet, you feel like you go above and beyond to help find a solution, but it’s not always reciprocated. In fact, if you’re honest with yourself, you realise that even though they seem to be listening, they don’t really understand what you need from them. Try to be as transparent as possible and honest with your expectations of them. If things don’t improve, then it’s probably time to let go and become more self-sufficient.

They’re not as dependable as you are to them

Perhaps the people in your friendship group do not need to check in every day, which is how you prefer it. Although, you’re in a pickle and decide to reach out to them only to find that there’s one or two who often drag their feet or better yet choose to ignore your cry for help. In this case, you can choose to be petty and bat the same bullshit ball back and forth, but quite honestly, this will lower your vibration and waste your time. If you’ve already spoken to the culprit and expressed your concerns about this issue then maybe it’s time to realise that they’re nothing but an anchor in your life. Chances are they choose to not reciprocate support because they have their own issues or they just love to see you suffer. Although, I see this as part of being their own issue too. Either way, we’re too deep into the awakening and self-development to stop and save others.

They’re unpredictable, and engage in dangerous behaviours

Sure, we love to have a good time with our friends, but we have to wonder when is it time to call it a day before we go too far? The friends who don’t respect your boundaries because they have none of their own, are the type of people you should be cautious of. Especially if they’re coercing you to partake in activities that you refuse to be a part of. Think wisely of the company you keep.

You feel emotionally, spiritually and physically drained being around them

This one will probably hit you the hardest as it’s an indicator that this person definitely shouldn’t be in your life. With this situation, the person always seems to have a problem with their relationships, finance or their health yet, they refuse the idea of acknowledgement and choose to deflect their issues onto you. In return, you feel like you’re their support pillar while your energy slowly chips away as they feed off your wellbeing. This matter is hazardous to you if you live or operate near them daily, which makes it difficult to detach. Understandably, the friendship may not have started this way, or you chose to overlook the subtle signs because your heart was open and receptive to their companionship, and this got worse as time went by. Whatever the case is, it’s essential to protect yourself by detaching and by wearing protective jewellery such as crystal pendants to block out their negative energy.

Growing out of friendships can be difficult, but what is extraordinary is our ability to learn the lessons from these bonds and understand ourselves better along the way.

All the best.