So you’ve evaluated your life plans and have started taking actions with tremendous enthusiasm. However, after many trials and lessons, you have realised that you’re not moving as fast towards your goals as you hoped or you’re not getting the desired results. We are all guilty of this at one point in time where we make decisions that we think is best, or even hope that perhaps ‘one day’ we’ll get what we desire in life. There is no magic formula to living a life of comfort and financial security. We all have to put in the discipline and effort to make things work in our favour, and some of us have started with nothing but a blank page. However, it’s how you choose to tackle obstacles that determine how quickly and how well you can achieve what you desire in life. The below points will help you to identify your obstacles and give you ideas on how you can navigate your way to success.
You don’t have a clear vision of what you want so you don’t know what actions to take to acquire it
This is the common mistake people make when starting a business, new relationships, making financial investments, or making a career change. Some even make decisions blindly because they don’t know what they want, which most often ends with costly lessons. Before you decide to take out a loan for a business, hand in your job resignation letter or jump into moving in with a new partner; ensure that you have taken the time to think about whether your current decision aligns with your long term goals. Assure that you have taken the time to identify your bigger picture, research the responsibilities that come with making each decision and think carefully about how it will impact you mentally and emotionally going forward. Sometimes we tend to change direction and leap towards what we think would be a good idea until we end up confused and exhausted. This is why it’s always a good idea to plan before setting any action in motion. Even if you don’t look at it every day, it will ensure you stay on course.
You don’t practice gratitude for what you already have to prepare you for an elevated version of it
Many people spend their days complaining about what they don’t have while longing for an extravagant lifestyle. This is quite prominent today because such lifestyles are widely advertised online, in films and on most social media platforms. Some are too busy longing for what they think others have, that they forget to pay attention and express gratitude for what they already possess. If this is you, perhaps take some time out by yourself to write a list of the things you are grateful for. Gratitude is the language of the universe, and it’s a way to show that you are taking responsibility for what you already own until you attract an elevated version of it. Think about it, if you live in a studio and dream to own a mansion yet, you don’t have the time or discipline to keep your studio clean and pay all the bills on time, how will you manage to be responsible for the ownership of a mansion? Suppose you wake up every day feeling jealous that all of your friends have successful businesses and high-class careers although, you spend all of your time engaging in unproductive activities rather than networking and educating yourself on how you will handle the ups and downs of your job and business. Besides, being successful in life comes with sacrifices that you’ll have to make. Sure, most winners show the occasional extravagant purchases and holidays however, they had to sacrifice their free time when they took the first steps to get what they want. Be grateful for everything, including the time you have now to prepare to move onto more significant opportunities.
You’re scared to make moves because you care too much of what other people think
How many times have you doubted your decisions and actions because you were afraid of what other people would think? It happens to a lot of people. However, you have to find a way to be secure within yourself to trust your intuition and ability to make the most effective decisions. The most crucial point is that you have to ensure that you’re making decisions that are best for you and your goals. No, you won’t get everything right nonetheless, the beauty of life is to learn from experiences.
You’re unwilling to roll your sleeves and get dirty
When it comes to your career, relationships and business, it’s up to you to decide how much energy is worth pouring into their success. Anything that is worth having will undoubtedly require your focus and efforts. Unless you have the funds to pay someone to do the gritty work that you don’t want to acknowledge, you’ll have to learn new skills along the journey. Sometimes you’ll have to accept and do the gritty work within yourself for the sake of your evolution. Whatever it is, at one point in your journey, you’ll need to roll up your sleeve and get in the muck.
You don’t believe that you are worthy and deserving of having what you want
It took me a few years to realise this and really embed it into my subconscious, and you also need to understand this too. You have to believe that you are worthy and deserving of having anything that you desire. When you programme your subconscious mind with this belief, your motivation for accessing all that you desire will increase, you will have better respect for yourself, and your value will rise. If you don’t believe that you are worthy and deserving, people will also lose interest, and it’ll be challenging to keep their attention, especially if you’re trying to sell your brand or products. If you don’t believe that you are worthy of having better, you’re more likely to settle on low expectations, therefore attracting low-quality relationships and disrespect. The message here is not to assume we are better than everyone, no. When you do the shadow work and address underlying issues within, it will enable you to set healthy boundaries to protect your energy and space, make decisions with clarity and form sincere connections with people to support your development and growth.
Until next time.