Thoughts on vibes: Watch out for the energy vampire (Sometimes it’s you!)

You’ve heard the term Energy Vampire, and I’m sure you know what it means, but for those of you who don’t, see below.

A person who boosts his own energy by taking energy from others by means of an argument, belittlement, criticism or other one-sided conversation. – Urban Dictionary

It is widespread to have interactions with energy vamps. Even if you live alone and work from home, as long as you have the technology, social media, television etc., your energy is getting drained from somewhere. However, it’s not impossible to deal with them. You just need to know your stance in life and have a solid sense of self. Here are some quick tips to help you manage energy vampires.

Set firm, healthy boundaries.

No is a complete sentence. Have a clear vision of what and who you want to engage with in your life. Evaluate situations before you say yes, and don’t be afraid of saying no. Most times, when you’re coming from an honest space, you’ll find that you won’t need to make up excuses or apologise for saying no. Of course, the right people will understand your boundaries, and the wrong people will have a problem with it, but still, the answer is no.

Be aware.

Make an effort to tune into your surroundings and listen to people. Sometimes it could be that an energy vampire chooses to dump their funk on you because they don’t have anyone else to talk to. Maybe they need nurturing and love. You can choose to meet them with love but at your own pace. Don’t insert yourself into a counselling role if you are not equipped. Instead, you can lovingly encourage them to book an appointment with a professional.

Have self-awareness.

Perhaps you’ve had a horrible day at work, fought with a loved one or just felt funky. This doesn’t mean that other people are open and ready to listen to your rants. Have regular check-ins with yourself. Tune into your needs and find ways to meet them. Yes, you can speak to people but have the self-awareness to ensure you’re not draining their energy. 

Be honest.

When you feel uncomfortable around someone or drained by specific interactions, be honest with yourself and accept that maybe they’re not the person you need to be around at that moment. Usually, people get the hint when you’re ready to withdraw and move on from situations; however, some people are stuck in their bubble. Be constructive and positive, letting them know that you have to leave. 

Until next time.

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