Thoughts on attachment: It is what it is, learn to let it go

Life is a journey and not always a pleasant one. We meet people along the way, and most often, relationships are built in our childhood that shape our personalities, outlook and subconscious philosophies for the future. As we grow, so does our way of thinking, and it’s not uncommon that we find ourselves longing and reminiscing for connections from our past. Some of these relationships were placed in our path for a reason, whether we deem them good or bad. With some inner work and understanding, only you will know the reason. Sometimes, we long to reconnect with people from our past because they remind us of who we were at a certain point in time. Perhaps, you relish memories of someone from childhood because they remind you of a time when you were free to express yourself and manoeuvre life without the limitations that possibly plague us in adulthood. A job, managing finance, caring for others etc. Sometimes you may go back to connect with someone from the past even if the relationship didn’t end on good terms because you’re facing similar situations now. So your subconscious tries to re-run scenarios to gain wisdom from past lessons to deal with present circumstances.

Nonetheless, situations often occur because they need to for the development of our character and personal consciousness. And most of us are no stranger to experiencing the uncomfortable feelings and thoughts that lingers in the memory bank of past mistakes. But what can we do when such thoughts arise? We can sink deep with eternal dread under the duvet or face them, allowing our subconscious to process the emotions that come with such memories then let them go.

Some thoughts and memories take time to process. However, it’s not uncommon to feel a lingering sense of embarrassment and doom as we heal. Find ways to ease the process and comfort yourself. Maybe even use techniques to divert your attention towards the positives of life, such as journaling, meditating and speaking to a counsellor without judgement. Life’s merciless, and it doesn’t get easier. We just find ways to better navigate the self and circumstances. So take your time and trust in your process. The light at the end of the tunnel isn’t too far out.

Until next time.

~J

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