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The art of coping with life

Today’s post is relatively short and reflective. I write this as I sit and observe the world spin around my reality, with the characters fulfilling their roles. Life has been a whirlwind adventure over the past three years, and my awakening hasn’t been smooth sailing. For sure, I was caught up in my own way of preservation and refused to allow myself to be receptive of new opportunities. There were times on my journey that I felt empty even though I was surrounded by friends. Although I knew I had the strength to get through any situation, I felt lost. Nonetheless, I knew I was destined to achieve my life’s purpose. Anyway, no matter what came my way or how low I thought I felt, I emerged on the other side with clarity and confidence to cope with life.

Self-forgiveness

Sure, we’ve all done things that we weren’t proud of. Especially in the reminder reel of disappointments and embarrassing moments from five years ago, your brain decides to play right before you fall asleep. It’s so easy to accept people’s judgements, anger and the disappointing image they paint of us even when the time has flown by, but what if we decided to forgive ourselves. Part of life’s lessons is to learn from the mistakes we’ve made. One thing I know for sure is that I wouldn’t be where I am today if it wasn’t for the choices I made in the past- good or bad, right or wrong. So whenever you feel embarrassment from your former self creep in, don’t immediately turn to shame. Instead, pay homage to that version of you and nurture this self because if we continue to hide in shame and darkness, we are more likely to project our broken and traumatic self onto others. The ‘others’ tend to be the people who are closest to us. Perhaps try some positive affirmations to help you on your journey.

Being selfish

This is a common issue where we feel guilty for our needs and desires. The truth is, we all deserve to have what we need and desire. Most of us run in circles trying to please people yet, we never stop to realise that we are unable to help others if our own cup is empty. So don’t feel guilty to set healthy boundaries. Learn to say no when you need to and find ways to do the things that help you to connect with self. Another way of being selfish is to manage expectations accordingly. We’re not all built to carry our load, and everyone else’s as we navigate our way through life. A lot of people have such high expectations of us that we end up falling over ourselves trying to meet them and vice versa. The key is to find a balance for how others manage their expectations and how we manage ours.

Soothe yourself to sooth others

There have been many times when I felt like I couldn’t afford to soothe people in my circle because I wasn’t aligned with my own peace. Sometimes circumstances arise in life that knocks the air out of your lungs and sends your knees weak, however, to be available and supportive to others, you have to take time out of situations to make sure you’re at peace. Even nurses need to be nursed and nurtured. So if you find yourself in a difficult situation and you feel like you’re patting your way around the dark, take some time out to process your emotions, thoughts and find clarity.

Opinions are not facts

Imagine if you listened to every single opinion that was made about you and your life goals? I can’t imagine this because I know that people’s opinions, especially when it’s unsolicited, are not a concrete fact. We all have our own perception of what life is or what it should be. If you get caught up in a fight, you will notice that everyone who witnessed the fight, when asked, will have a slightly different version to recount, including yourself. There isn’t really a right or wrong account of the fight, but merely, everyone had their own perception of what happened. This is the same with life’s trivial moments. People will always have an opinion, but it’s up to you how you let it affect your life. At the end of the day, when you hop into bed and close your eyes to reflect, the only opinion that matters about your life choices is yours.

Have a wonderful day.

J.P. Mooney’s guide to holiday gift giving

It’s that time of the year…again and although it feels like it was only yesterday that we bid farewell to Christmas, with our body clock stuck in the limbo of lockdowns, that supposedly thrilling part of the year is leering around the corner. Today’s post is dedicated to the art of gifting. I love gifts, and I think everyone around me loves to receive gifts too. Even if you hate surprises, the idea that you could potentially receive something you really want or an item that could change your life for the better (and for free) is thrilling! Below are a few suggestions I have tried and loved that I think are worth a browse.

Anything and everything Rituals

When I recently discovered Rituals, I absolutely fell in love with their products. My home was fragranced like a spa, and my skin felt like I just walked out of a spa, whilst, Rituals products remained affordable. There’s a wide variety of gift ideas to choose from such as divine relaxing candles, bath and shower foams, hair and travel sets, makeup, perfumes and refills! If you’re stuck for choice, you can try a gift set from their exciting collections or The Rituals of Advent Calendar. This is perfect for distributing as stocking fillers or gifting to an exceptional loved one to indulge. 

Check out Not On The High Street

This site contains various original gift ideas suitable for anyone on your list. Not On The High Street is suitable for quirky presents catered for baby showers, birthdays, weddings, Christmas and so much more. I guarantee you’ll be able to find something suitable for even the most challenging recipient in your life.

The ever so trusted Amazon

Where would we be without Amazon prime? Last-minute gifts are no longer a thing because with amazon delivery you can pretty much order anything you want direct to the recipient’s address, gift-wrapped and without a price receipt for peace of mind. This means your recipient won’t need to know how much you actually spent on their gift. 

Find your unique treasure on Etsy

Etsy is a beautiful marketplace that caters to all your gifting needs. The magic of Etsy is that the majority of their products are handmade and original from local artists and boutiques around the globe. Etsy has a variety of sections to choose from, e.g. Jewellery and accessories, clothes and shoes, home and living, wedding and party, vintage and collectables etc. Whatever you decide to gift your loved ones, you are very likely to find a unique version of it on Etsy. Even if you are undecided, the site provides a seamless browsing experience as they consistently promote on a high standard. The only issue is that the products are so creative and beautiful, you may become obsessed!

Browse the trail of luxury on Net-A-Porter

NET-A-PORTER is a game changer when it comes to making luxury fashion accessible. If you love fashion and high-end designers, then this site is for you. The site sections are as follows:

What’s New– This shows you all the new pieces and trends that have just launched.

Designers- Here, you can search the collections by designers. This is easier if you have a favourite designer and know what you’re looking for.

Clothing, Shoes, Bags, Accessories and Jewelry and Beauty- The most popular section on the site.

Editorial and What To Wear– Let the articles and edits inspire you. Even if you opt to not make a purchase, they are still an enjoyable read.

Buy my books

It would not be a J.P. Mooney blog if I didn’t take an opportunity to promote my own work. If you’ve searched all over the internet for the perfect thoughtful present and still couldn’t find anything, then perhaps have a look at my books. I have a collection of contemporary poetry and an expanding catalogue of romantic thrillers that I am soon distributing wide for you to choose from. If you have book lovers in your life or you just want something pretty to gift your loved ones, have a browse here

Do you have the wealth yet, still stuck for ideas? Perhaps the Luxury Lifestyle Magazine may inspire you. Whatever you decide to do during the holidays, it’s also important to remember that while materialism is fun, there is no greater gift you can give someone than your time.

Best Wishes.

It’s time to get organised

The leaves are falling, the air drifts into stillness, and our desire to go outside begins to decline into a need to stay indoors in our favourite silks watching Netflix, sipping our beverages of choice. Autumn. The perfect season to slow down and gather ourselves. As we do so, we begin to feel the need to get our lives in order the best we can. Below are my typical list of things worth revisiting and up-keeping.

Wardrobe

This is the time to have some fun putting together some autumn/winter appropriate outfits. Find ways to liven up your wardrobe by adding new pieces or removing the cringe-worthy items you purchased out of boredom during lockdown amnesia. You can donate some of these items to the local charity shop, sell them on eBay, or swap them with your friend. If you’re someone who loathes ironing clothes, this is the time to ensure all of your key pieces are washed, dried, and ironed so that it’s ready for the festive season.

Finances

You must go through your bank statements, direct debits, and standing orders to reevaluate your income, savings, or any outgoings you anticipate during the winter months. This is not the time to bury your head under the sand, hoping that your financial affairs will fall in line. Emergencies are most likely to arise during the cold months, such as boiler breakdowns, car breakdowns, services, etc. It’s also important to factor in all of your festive activities and luxuries as early as possible. The more time you give yourself, the more money you will be able to save. Perhaps you’re anxious about the lack of income. Nonetheless, this is the time to think about creating a side hustle or perhaps research on affordable investments. The opportunities are endless once you summon the drive and discipline to flourish in the age of technology. Check out the Break Platform for some ideas.

Necessary Maintenance

As much as you need to be financially prepared to deal with the necessary maintenance, you also need to be prepared by anticipating what may need fixing during the cold months. Don’t leave your car servicing or fuel level until the last minute, because it won’t be a fun experience to be stranded on the motorway or on a deserted road in the middle of nowhere. If you’re a homeowner, make sure your boiler is sufficient, and your house isn’t susceptible to flooding or anything that could make your autumn and winter a living nightmare. Prevention is better than a cure.

Health

This is an obvious point, but I think it’s worth reinforcing. Your health is the foundation of your quality of life. If you’re run down from overworking or from being a permanent sofa resident, you will be unable to enjoy the pleasures of this life. It goes without saying that in the current climate, your health is of utmost importance. As tempting as it is to slouch on the sofa, wrapped in your blanket with a tipple in one hand, and a thick slice of cheesy pizza in the other, it is also good to ensure you’re well-hydrated, your body is moving, and your diet is as clean possible. I’m not a doctor, so if something doesn’t feel quite right with your mind or body, then it’s a good idea to catch up with your GP.

Check on your loved ones

Perhaps you’re responsible for looking after a loved one or you live quite far, and you are unable to visit frequently. Whatever the situation, it is crucial that you schedule consistent means of communication to ensure that your family and friends are okay, be organised with their care, and promote a micro-community to help those in need.

The most important thing to remember here is that everything seems to take twice as long in the cold months; therefore, always be prepared for the unexpected. Ensure that you look after yourself and your loved ones and stay safe.

Five ways to begin or refresh your meditation practice

Let’s talk about meditation. My journey has been quite long, however, fascinating when it comes to meditation. I started my journey three years ago, and the thought of sitting down quietly and watching my breath didn’t appease. At that time, I marveled at the notion of being busy and restless, ensuring that I had a lot of things to do and people to see. My excuse was, “I could never meditate. I can’t get my mind to stop thinking” but then something inside me switched, and I began to understand that meditation was a time to connect with myself with or without thought. Thoughts will always be there, but as you progress with practice, you will be able to automatically quiet your mind. But then comes the time when you fall out of your meditation to practice, sometimes for so long that you dread starting again. Below are the five tips to help you start, whether it’s for the first time or the tenth.

Find a quiet space to reflect

It can be your garden, the bath, or your bedroom, but wherever it is, make it comfortable for yourself so that it’s conducive to meditating. Once you are in this space, try not to focus too much on being thoughtless but more-so reflect on your day, situations, or feelings that stand out to you. Here is where you’ll choose to allow the matter to flow through you and out into the universe.

Write a journal

Writing is a fantastic way to help clear your mind and push negative emotions out and it is a great way to help you materialise your intentions. Words are powerful, and if you choose to study and research them, you will realise that words are spells. You may choose to keep two journals, for releasing negative emotions and thoughts, the other for manifesting your goals. There’s no specific time to journal. Keep it tucked safely in your bag, besides your bed, or anywhere you deem fit. The focus here is to take some time for awareness.

Go for a walk

This is not just any power walk; leave your headphones, and take your time to notice the environment around you, whether it’s on the city streets or the countryside. Pay attention to the sounds and the cycle of how things work, try to see things from a different perspective. How often do you get to slow down and notice things around you? Enjoy and explore.

Try some yoga

You can sign up for a class or follow a free video tutorial; the choice is yours. But when you decided to try yoga, make sure that you do your research and start on a level that is suited to your experience to avoid hurting yourself. Yoga Journal is a great resource to look into.

Watch or listen to something that makes you laugh

Sometimes we all need a healthy dose of laughter. You can relieve the pressure off your meditation practice by simply immersing yourself in content that makes you laugh. You’ll notice that when you’re engaged in this state, your worries will start to melt away, and your body should automatically relax.

Rest in silence

This approach is similar to the first point, sometimes all we need to do is sit or lie in a quiet place. When you rest there long enough, you’ll notice that your body will signal what it needs, and your mind will be receptive to ideas and new thoughts that will encourage your growth.

Being The Higher Self

This post is dedicated as a reminder for you to find your inner balance and peace by knowing who you are. There are certain people, whether it’s complete strangers, in friendships, work colleagues, or family members that are low frequencies who intentionally or subconsciously are culprits of dragging you down to low-level situations that don’t serve your highest purpose. Suppose you can listen and observe carefully instead of blindly reacting to situations. You will understand and see that most people are out there to gain your confidence and friendship to fight their battles because they are unwilling to take responsibility for their own lives. These people are set within their ways, they are comfortable living in their toxic cycle, and they cannot function without drama. As much as you try to lend support and provide care, you have to use discernment and know that some people are out there just to use your energy and goodwill to boost their confidence and drama within their space since they can’t live without it.

Always find time to do the work within yourself to find your confidence because when you know yourself and what you stand for, you are more likely to have the courage and strength to stand up for YOU, your belief. It will also signal to these people that you cannot easily be lead to arguments and low-level situations. It is true that the higher you raise your frequency, the better you can deal with people as you realise that certain situations are not worth your time and energy.
We are now coming towards the end of 2020, and if you haven’t planted seeds for yourself, you still have time to do so and watch them grown, whether it’s for your health and wellness, creative and business ideas, or lending your knowledge to those who need it. This is an excellent approach to taking care and protecting yourself as when you walk with a strong and confident posture when you know who you are and what you stand for; nobody can approach you with their nonsense to sway you. Even if they did try, they wouldn’t be successful.

This post is to help and nudge you into remembering who you are. Please continue to do the work, and if you haven’t done any work within yourself, this is a great time to start. Find some time by yourself to figure out what you like, what you want to achieve, and what type of people you wish to surround yourself with. There is no time to slack as we need to move forward. We can’t engage in mundane garbage anymore as the world is moving forward, there may be two types of people. The alchemists understand and know that they can create opportunities for themselves and walk in their highest purpose, and the sheep who fall for anything and everything while waiting for people to fix their lives.

All the best.

My five favourite tips for being productive

Hello there!

I hope everyone’s having a great start to the week. It is now officially autumn in the UK and it has surely been an interesting year so far. Today, I woke up thinking about productivity. In the midst of COVID-19 there’s no doubt that we’ve had to change our way of thinking, planning and doing. Some of us have taken the situation in our stride when it comes to business, using the time spent at home to tick things off our To-Do List while others have simply fallen in a slump of confusion. Whichever side you fall into, perhaps the below tips will assist you in executing your short term goals effectively.

Prioritise your list

This is a simple way to choose your most important task on the list. You can do this by doing your most dreaded task first or by executing the tasks that will create a foundation for other things on your list. However, you decide to use this approach, it is important that you try to keep the process simple and fun.

Get ahead of the game

A lot of us are guilty of leaving things until the very last minute. In most cases, you’ll find that if you just leap into doing the tasks on your list the night before, the feeling of accomplishment tend to motivate you to continue doing things on your list and before you know it, it’s all done. The good thing about this is, if you’re motivated to do everything the night before, you can enjoy some extra time in bed the next morning since the dreaded list is not hanging over your head.

Turn on or turn off distractions

It’s easier for some to turn on music or background noise while they work and it’s a necessity for others to switch off all distractions. Do whatever works for you but don’t get carried away. The purpose of this is to create an environment that motivates you to tap into discipline and get things done!

Try not to take breaks

When it comes to short term goals, i’ve found that the best approach for me to execute tasks is to get it all done at once. Let’s face it, the list is there because you’re probably falling behind on your work so why waste time in between when you can just have it all done and enjoy a rewarding hot beverage afterwards.

Just say no

We are all guilty of saying yes to menial tasks that we simply do not have the capacity to complete within a short timeframe. As your business evolves, you will need to have the courage to simply say no when you know that you are unable to fully commit to demands. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with this and only you know what is best for you when it comes to managing demands however, please take your mental health into consideration. Being burnt out and missing deadlines could potentially discourage clients.