Thoughts on rest: Don’t underestimate the power of a good night’s sleep

The majority of the world is sleep deprived. Even when we sleep, often we aren’t gaining good quality rest. Our subconscious continuously absorbs societal programming even when our eyes close with our heads on the pillow. Sleep not only provides substantial rest, but it is also the opportunity for us to clean out mental, emotional, physical and spiritual gunk to attend the day with renewed energy. It provides vitality. That is why people say “you should sleep on it” when making an important decision. Just as we plug our phones into a socket to charge at night, we plug ourselves into sleep and out of the everyday hustle to charge. Many phenomena happen when you sleep.

  • Your breathing and heart rate slows down while your muscles begin to relax.
  • According to the Sleep Foundation ‘When measured during sleep, brain waves show clear patterns associated with each sleep stage. In the early parts of non-REM sleep, brain waves slow down considerably; however, in Stage 2 and Stage 3, there are numerous quick bursts of brain activity. In REM (Rapid Eye Movement) sleep, brain activity accelerates, showing markedly different types of brain waves. Heightened brain activity is why REM sleep is known as the stage most associated with vivid dreaming.’
  • You dream. 
  • Your hormone levels fluctuate.

Falling asleep and dreaming is a realm of its own. With enough practice and discipline, you could even learn to remain lucid and control your dreams while you sleep. Hypnotherapy exercises during sleep also work to help you reach your goal faster. For example, I remember when I was in performance art classes, and I used to find learning lines challenging. So I recorded myself reciting my lines and listened to the tape while I fell asleep. Everything was stored in my mind the following day, and after three days, I was a pro at remembering my lines. That’s because, as mentioned above, your subconscious mind continuously absorbs the programming, and you can choose what it absorbs while you sleep to train yourself.

Sometimes as much as you know that you have various tasks that need completing during the day, your body will send signals to tell you that it needs you to sleep to repair itself. In this case, when these signs are ignored, your body begins to subtly shut down until symptoms become more apparent. At that point, people tend to panic and run straight for medication when really, they just needed to put in payment for severe sleep debt and good nutrition. I am not a doctor though, do visit your GP if you have medical concerns. On the other hand, some people walk around constantly tired because they sleep too much. So as much as the feeling and thought of staying in bed most of the morning seem appealing, we do need to have a healthy balance of sleep.

I feel that there is no specific time for better sleep as I go with the flow of nature. As an entrepreneur, I need to put certain hours of effort and discipline into my work and balance rest; however, if I feel like having a long nap at midday after my early rising, that is what I would do. Sometimes I can go a total of 24 hours without sleeping (please don’t do this) because my mind goes into overdrive while writing, and I will sleep for 24 hours afterwards to recover and recharge. This is my personal sleeping habit, though, and it works for me. Of course, if you work long hours during the day, it’s a good idea to get ample rest by going to bed earlier at night. Shut off all screens, stop scrolling through social media, do some deep breathing, drink some water, do light stretches and get yourself under the duvet for some snooze.

Until next time.

Thoughts on spirituality: My spiritual item must-haves

Waking up and being enlightened has been an incredibly personal journey. Despite what is promoted on social media, the journey is not always positive and uplifting. Yes, it is empowering to understand the universal laws and be in touch and aware of oneself; however, it’s not always an easy journey. The below items are my must-haves for a comforting spiritual practice.

Crystals

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Whether you believe they work or not, crystals are beautiful and are here to assist and support in achieving specific goals. Check out the Crystal Council for further information on their uses and how they work.

Incense and Smudge Sticks

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Sage, palo santo, patchouli or whichever scent you are drawn to is a great way to clean, smooth and elevate the vibe in your personal space. You can purchase these in various metaphysical stores, online, or even make your own, but please be safe when handling these.

Music

High-frequency music that resonates with you is a great way to elevate your consciousness, meditate, or even relax after a long day. Try some Tibetan singing bowls, 432 Hz or even the sound of nature.

Body oils

Body oils are a great way to add a touch of luxury and enjoyment into our daily routines.

Fresh flowers

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Regardless of the seasons, having a bouquet of fresh flowers in the home is a great way to elevate your mood and raise your vibration.

Journals

You can literally manifest your goals and live your best life with the act of Journaling. Check out my previous post, The Useful Art of Journaling or my short ebook Journal Your Way To Your Goals: How to manifest your desires and live an abundant life with a simple act of Journaling. Journaling has been the most consistent exercise that kept me on track throughout my journey and even if you are not manifesting anything specific, it is a great way to write your thoughts to process your emotions during challenging situations.

Watch like-minded instructors on Youtube

Even though spiritual growth is a personal journey, there are communities and tribes out there to help you move forward. Find ways to connect with authentic people to swap resources and tools that will help you on your way. Be sure to stay safe and always use your discernment when making connections.

Until next time.

Thoughts on change: Going with the flow

As we enter autumn, the day closes earlier, and the cold weather seeps into our pores. Remember to move with the flow of life and take some time to reconnect with yourself. This is a time to elevate your self-care routine and indulge in the fall aesthetic as well as balancing productivity. Immerse yourself in creative projects and open your perspective to abundance. If you can see a better life for yourself, know that you have what it takes to create it. Take manageable steps and stay aligned with your discernment. On a metaphysical note, the veil is now thinning, therefore protect your energy and mental health. Do the work required to manifest and stay aligned with the best version of yourself. Whether it’s meditation, yoga, deep breathing or journaling, make time for your practice. Remember, the fiercest character most times evolves from chaos and uncertainty. I wish everyone the very best in doing what is best for you.

Until next time.

Thoughts on survival: My Autumn Essentials

I was not too fond of autumn when I first moved to the UK as a child because I grew up in a literal paradise. The islands of Seychelles are glazed with high temperatures all year round, clear blue seas laced with white sand and every food that touched my tongue were natural and seasonal. So you can imagine how much of a culture shock it was to move from such a place to the cold dark days of autumn-winter in the UK. I grew to like it, though, as I was and still am adaptable. I have grown to enjoy the chilly air and embrace the seasons like a professional. Below are a few of my essentials that will help you get through the transition from a (non-existent) summer to the darker days ahead.

Enjoy frequent cups of hot beverages to keep you warm and cosy such as Hot Chocolate, Pumpkin Spiced Latte (with real pumpkin not flavoured syrup), Green Matcha Latte or Chai Latte.

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Invest in good quality stylish jumpers to keep you warm.

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Find good movies and series to watch on your streaming service of choice.

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Arm yourselves with some excellent books. Since Halloween is fast approaching, you could get in the swing of it with a good thriller.

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Be constructively productive. It’s great to throw ourselves in work but ensure that you try to enjoy your work process to avoid extra stress and funky moods. Take frequent breaks and rest or plan your to-do list efficiently so that you can make the most of your time without hitting burnout.

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Be creative and find something you can do to activate your sacral chakra. Write poetry, paint, draw, sing, dance etc.

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Spend time in nature during the day by taking a walk, observing wildlife or just vibe in the park or garden.

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With the darker days approaching, it’ll become easier to spot sky objects in the evening. Look out for moon cycles, the brightest stars or planets in orbit throughout the season. You can find apps that can help you track which sky object is above your house and learn about them.

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Take time to improve your health by cooking fresh meals and working out whenever you can.

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Meditate often to keep your mind calm and clear.

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Check on and make time for your loved ones.

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Get organised. Go through your finances to plan for upcoming expenses, get your car serviced and your home essentials checked and replenished.

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Until next time.

Thoughts on birthdays: A candid approach to a birthday

Yes, I am a Virgo lady turning 29 this month, and I am not impressed in the slightest. My peers are having fun going here, there and everywhere. Dinners, a steady 9 to 5 and what seems to be a solid social circle. I am here and not going everywhere, fighting sleep at midnight, mustering inspiration and motivation to finish my manuscripts, blog posts and creating avenues for entrepreneurial income. Contrary to popular beliefs, my birthdays are usually the last priority on my mind since I entered adulthood. I used to judge myself for being indifferent towards my ‘big day,’ but the more I elevate my mindset and expand my consciousness, the more I realise that it is indeed just a day. I enjoy spending time with my loved ones and creating memories; however, it’s not the end all be all. Besides, I don’t need to celebrate that I am literally one year older and wiser. I mean, wiser, really? Perhaps. I have indeed learned a lot about myself, and I am proud of my growth and ability to adhere to healthy boundaries. I am proud that I have managed to weed out the rotten branches and habits that no longer serve my highest purpose, and as much as I may want to shrug off responsibilities to navigate slightly off course, I know that the lesson will be tougher to learn when I do.

Ignorance is no longer bliss during self-expansion, and I am okay with putting in the work now to enjoy the fruits of my labour in the future. Some will label me a hermit, and that is true. Virgos are the ultimate hermits because we just cannot be bothered with drama and disappointments. Surely one should know that only a Virgo can meet and exceed a Virgo’s expectations. (Yes, I am trying to be funny with a pinch of truth.) On a serious note, if you find yourself going through similar emotions and experiencing a bit of turbulence, note that you are not alone, and you have every right to want to preserve your energy. Take some time and go inside yourself to understand yourself. We are human, and it’s okay to break down, mould and rebuild. At the time of my birthday I will be taking some time to reflect and make plans for my solar year’s manifestation. To me, this is just as important as eating cake and being merry. It’s my personal year and I absolutely want to meet my highest achievements. On a lighter note, I send ever-ending gratitude to all who continue to support me and my work.

Until next time.

Thoughts on food: The importance of cooking with purpose

When I think about cooking, I immediately think of my mother. For those who know me, know that my mother is the essence of my very being. Her meals are charged with high frequencies that pull me out of the deepest funk. Today, I will journal about the typical Seychellois dish that brings the family together. Even when we are far apart, this dish never fails to bring us joy. 

When I think about my family and Seychelles, I think about the Fresh Grilled Red Snapper with Spicy Creole Sauce, Fresh Rice and Green Pawpaw Satini Papay. The colours glazed on the dining table, evoking a feeling of security, love, joy and compassion. As I enjoy eating the meal, I have to include that watching (because sometimes it’s better to let the professionals get on with it) or helping my mother cook her exceptional dishes is also a magical experience. She chops her ingredients as though they were just picked from the garden, washes the fish with care and infuses positive intentions as she folds the seasoning in the Satini. This is an alchemy that my elder brother also uses and never fails to impress and envelope the devourers who usually ask for a second serving. And you know the food is really delicious when we sit in silence or get stuck in with our (clean) fingers. This is one way we show love for one another and the community. There’s plenty to extend a bowl of nourishment for our extended family. 

For the sweet-toothed, the traditional Ladob is usually a favourite after a Sunday lunch. The plantain and sweet potato, coconut milk, sugar and nutmeg is the foundation that brings warmth and a smile on my face reminiscent of the holiday cheer that compels me to top up my plate until bedtime. However, it’s not the type of dishes that make or break meal times, it’s the person’s energy that fulfils the purpose they want to convey. I find that it’s imperative to churn and actively add positive intention within every meal I cook as I want nothing but the best for my family and guests. 

I dedicate Today’s post to my mother, my big brother and my Seychellois ancestors.

Until next time. xo

Thoughts on productivity: It’s time to get organised

The leaves are falling, the air drifts into stillness, and our desire to go outside begins to decline into a need to stay indoors in our favourite silks watching Netflix, sipping our beverages of choice. Autumn. The perfect season to slow down and gather ourselves. As we do so, we begin to feel the need to get our lives in order the best we can. Below are my typical list of things worth revisiting and up-keeping.

Wardrobe

This is the time to have some fun putting together some autumn/winter appropriate outfits. Find ways to liven up your wardrobe by adding new pieces or removing the cringe-worthy items you purchased out of boredom during lockdown amnesia. You can donate some of these items to the local charity shop, sell them on eBay, or swap them with your friend. If you’re someone who loathes ironing clothes, this is the time to ensure all of your key pieces are washed, dried, and ironed so that it’s ready for the festive season.

Finances

You must go through your bank statements, direct debits, and standing orders to reevaluate your income, savings, or any outgoings you anticipate during the winter months. This is not the time to bury your head under the sand, hoping that your financial affairs will fall in line. Emergencies are most likely to arise during the cold months, such as boiler breakdowns, car breakdowns, services, etc. It’s also important to factor in all of your festive activities and luxuries as early as possible. The more time you give yourself, the more money you will be able to save. Perhaps you’re anxious about the lack of income. Nonetheless, this is the time to think about creating a side hustle or perhaps research on affordable investments. The opportunities are endless once you summon the drive and discipline to flourish in the age of technology. Check out the Break Platform for some ideas.

Necessary Maintenance

As much as you need to be financially prepared to deal with the necessary maintenance, you also need to be prepared by anticipating what may need fixing during the cold months. Don’t leave your car servicing or fuel level until the last minute, because it won’t be a fun experience to be stranded on the motorway or on a deserted road in the middle of nowhere. If you’re a homeowner, make sure your boiler is sufficient, and your house isn’t susceptible to flooding or anything that could make your autumn and winter a living nightmare. Prevention is better than a cure.

Health

This is an obvious point, but I think it’s worth reinforcing. Your health is the foundation of your quality of life. If you’re run down from overworking or from being a permanent sofa resident, you will be unable to enjoy the pleasures of this life. It goes without saying that in the current climate, your health is of utmost importance. As tempting as it is to slouch on the sofa, wrapped in your blanket with a tipple in one hand, and a thick slice of cheesy pizza in the other, it is also good to ensure you’re well-hydrated, your body is moving, and your diet is as clean possible. I’m not a doctor, so if something doesn’t feel quite right with your mind or body, then it’s a good idea to catch up with your GP.

Check on your loved ones

Perhaps you’re responsible for looking after a loved one or you live quite far, and you are unable to visit frequently. Whatever the situation, it is crucial that you schedule consistent means of communication to ensure that your family and friends are okay, be organised with their care, and promote a micro-community to help those in need.

The most important thing to remember here is that everything seems to take twice as long in the cold months; therefore, always be prepared for the unexpected. Ensure that you look after yourself and your loved ones and stay safe.