8 ways to live your best life

Understand that living your best life is not always the concept of living a luxurious lifestyle 24/7. Elevate your mindset to find enjoyment in the more minor luxuries of life.

Invest in your favourite beverage your budget can afford. Tea, coffee, wine, juice or hot chocolate? Invest in the best version of this and enjoy it guiltless whenever you need a pick me up.

Pick up your favourite book and research its fanbase communities. Join, have fun and discuss your common raves.

Shower your pet with unconditional love. Give them a big snuggle and feel your heart chakra open.

Hug someone you love and say ‘I appreciate you’. Watch the frequency shift for the better in both of you.

Bake yourself a fancy cake.

Grab a to-go coffee and walk in nature.

Invest in quality fabrics for your wardrobe, bed linens or bath towels.

Until next time.

~J x

Thoughts on success: Make a dent doing what you love in this world

Many of you reading this post today have probably been told not to dream too big as a child. But as we move forward in time, people are waking up to realise their gifts and working to their highest potential. Some are realising that working a generic 9 to 5 job, making money living someone else’s dream is no longer fruitful. Whatever your circumstance is, today’s post reminds you that you are here for a purpose. It doesn’t matter if you think that someone else has already done it, or maybe you wonder if the market is saturated with the same talent. You are unique, and even if it was done before, others couldn’t do it like you. So do what comes naturally to you, roll up your sleeves and make a dent in this world.

Until next time.

~J

Thoughts on life: Not all ‘friends’ are your friend

We indeed showcase different aspects of ourselves to different people. Some people see your funny side. Some see your stylish edge, while others may experience the empathic side of you. However, not everyone who experiences many sides of you is your friend. Today, in the age of social media and fading boundaries in employment, many people may consider you their friend if you follow each other on Instagram, Facebook or Tiktok. They get to see the sides of you that you wouldn’t typically showcase in a professional setting or around mutual acquaintances. This becomes a slippery slope for people to loop you into a friendship trap with ridiculous expectations. e.g. “You said you couldn’t hang out with me, but you posted yourself out with other people.” Sometimes, the irritation can be triggered when you agree to meet up with them for tea or coffee, but they want to take pictures to tag and post.

Another red flag is when someone claims to be your friend, yet they’re only around for the simple checkups or gossip. Sometimes, they ask if you’re okay; however, that’s as far as their friendship goes. They don’t want to dive deep into life experiences with you. These people often only want to be with you when you’re at your best and do not think twice about helping you find solutions to problems when you’ve sunk to your worst. So the question in all situations is, what do you consider friendship? Does it have the safe space and ability to communicate without judgement, or just have companionship for shopping sprees and clubbing? It’s subjective, though, depending on how you like to spend your time and your consciousness level.

So what do we do when we’re unsure? Well, realise the cold truth that not everyone is your friend, even if they claim that they are. Know yourself so well that you have an awareness of your needs and strong discernment to make the best decisions for you. Understand that people don’t even know themselves most times, so be wary when they claim that they know you so well. Likewise, when you feel a distance in your immediate friendships, understand that we are constantly evolving and that what worked for your friendships last year wouldn’t necessarily work for you this year. Finally, be patient because it’s okay to grow apart as everyone grows to find or reinvent themselves.

Until next time.

~J

A quick message of gratitude

I want to thank you all for giving my blog posts your time and energy. Some days I get stuck on ideas and feel like I’ve hit a brick wall, but your engagement fuels my drive to explore various subjects and inject constructive articles into your day. As long as I can channel my thoughts into written words, I will continue to motivate and help you reach your goals. The most exciting thing about writing is that we are all on this journey together regardless of our business goals. Rest assured that when I receive a Ping back notification, likes, comments, external sales or a message, it truly makes my day, and I am incredibly grateful. I hope that you continue to find posts or books that continue to get you through the grittiness of life as we advance. Let’s continue to be productive together.

Until next time.

Thoughts on personal development: Simply exploring the power of choosing motivational language to win at life.

Today’s post will focus on your power of awareness and its role in choosing the correct language for your advancement. We often busy our days trying to fulfil tasks without paying attention to how we communicate in different situations. However, as intellectual beings, we have the power to choose, arrange and rearrange language to achieve our desired effects in all situations because if you study, look and listen carefully to words, you will understand that each one has the power to create or halt change.

Let’s begin with how language and words are powerful in relation to finance. I want to point your attention to phrases that you may often use.

‘I’m sorry I can’t do this activity this week, I don’t have any money.’

‘I can’t wait for payday, I’m so broke.’

The choice of words used here immediately limits your ability to be receptive to ways that money can actually flow to you. Thus automatically locking you in a lack mindset. You should understand that beyond the material world, money is currency, and currency is energy; therefore, energy does not rest in limit and lack. You just need to find a way to keep it flowing. By stating that you don’t have any money or that you’re broke, you’ve subconsciously stopped the flow of the energy of money into your life. So how do we change this? By removing low-vibrational words associated with lack mindset.

‘I’m on a budget this week, let’s plan this activity for next month where I can factor it into my budget, and we can have fun.’

‘Payday is around the corner. In the meantime, I will work with what I have. Next month I will ensure to manage my budget and cash-flow effectively.’

This does not automatically hand you money out of thin air but opens your mind to ways to manage your finances so that you’re not in the same situation next month. It nudges you to make a plan that factors your financial needs and eliminates dread and embarrassment. This concept can be applied to any aspect of your life, such as health and fitness, business and career, to how you manage your close relationships. Try to approach situations consciously and see solutions rather than focus on the negative aspect of problems.

Until next time.

Thoughts on personal development: The power of language – 3 Phrases to scrap from your vocabulary

Today’s post aims to bring awareness to your use of language. Communication is often misunderstood or misused, especially when we use specific negative language to talk to ourselves and others. Language is a powerful tool that can make or break your day. The words you choose have the opportunity to create a supportive community or conflict yet, sometimes we don’t even think twice about how we linguistically project ourselves to the world. We have the power to change ourselves, our reality and the world through the use of positive language by being conscious about what we consume and project. The following points are five words and phrases to be aware of and scrap from your vocabulary if you want to further pursue your self-development journey and create a reality you desire. 

‘I can’t do this’

When it comes to achieving your goals, trying something new or even working on personal confidence, it’s good to begin to train your subconscious mind by using firm words that opens enthusiasm and prompts action. Using the word ‘Can’t’ automatically creates a negative bias and diminishes your confidence when your aim is to take action. Unless you are using this word in a situation where you are creating firm boundaries, using this word illustrates unsureness about your ability to utilise your strength, will power and motivation. If you know that you have the skills and resources to help you reach your goals, using ‘can’t’ will stir up doubt and cause your efforts to falter. This will also give people the impression that you don’t trust yourself. It takes time, however, try to replace ‘I can’t do this’ with ‘I can do anything I put my mind to’ and eventually simply ‘I CAN do this.’

‘I hate this, that and everyone’

This is one of the most commonly used phrases, and I have to admit that I have used it a few times in testing situations. When you think about the word hate, it’s not necessarily a negative word but rather a low-vibration word. We often use it in frustration and low-vibrational situations. When you’re on a journey of self-development and expanding consciousness, you’ll begin to understand that we are all connected to each other and our surroundings. Suppose you are in a low-vibrational environment or situation; your goal is to raise your frequency so that you are unaffected by external factors and instead, have the ability to transmute the chaos into your lessons and gains. How will you learn about yourself if you constantly carry a funk in your heart that’s not even yours? How can you grow into your highest and best version of yourself doing what you love if you’re projecting hatred and spending your valuable energy on people and situations that don’t serve you? I’m not suggesting that we walk around pretending to love everything and everyone. However, changing the word ‘hate’ and associating it with empathy, understanding, and learning will become more productive for you when life gets chaotic. When you build anger, or you feel a dislike for something, try to explore ‘I’m not keen on this, but at least I have experienced it and can move on’ or by taking a breath and acknowledging why you feel this ‘hate’ so that you can address the uncomfortable within.

‘I am sick’

Yes, we all have days when we fall under the weather, and ailments plague us, but it’s worth noting that you become what you consistently tell yourself you are and feel. Some days you can’t deny that you’re unwell, especially when you are swamped with extra stress. Instead of declaring ‘I am sick’, try ‘I am healing and I will rest’. This will slowly lift your mood and place your mind in a receptive mode to find resources to make you feel better and heal. I am not a doctor, and this is not a replacement for a medical appointment but to help support your thoughts as your body heals. 

Remember that there are no golden formula or shortcuts to reach your goals and deal with situations along your journey. It’s all about perspective and changing angles to understand the lessons hidden in the chaos. Be aware of what you want to embody and what you put out in the world and onto others. Keep going and find ways to enjoy the experience.

Until Next time.

Thoughts on success: 5 ways to invest in yourself this month

April seems to be over in a flash, but there’s still time to address habits that no longer serve you and get your life in order. We have eased into spring, and nature is now active yet, some of you may still need support to shed the grogginess of winter and step into vitality. Below are the five ways you can invest in yourself this month and possibly for the long term.

Invest in a good notebook and pen

Yes, you read that right. We all have to-do lists, affirmations and thoughts to write and process as we go through the day. Investing in a good notebook and pen will make your journal moments a little more exciting and keep your brain more alert. Try Paperchase or Amazon.

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Invest in a workout video plan, app or gym equipment

It’s always a good time to take on a workout regime, whether it’s yoga, cardio, pilates, dance or exploring the outdoors. The beauty of today’s technology means that most times, you don’t really have to leave your house to get a good sweat on. If you have enough space, you can find some free workout videos on Youtube, purchase an app or some accessible home gym equipment. If you don’t have space or the funds, simply put on some comfortable shoes and go for a long walk.

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Invest in a holistic health treatment

If you have aches and pains that are managed with conventional medical care or simply just want to try something for your overall wellbeing, it’s worth looking into some holistic treatments that are widely available. Ensure to do your research on the treatments and practitioners, and speak with your doctor beforehand to ensure that your chosen treatment is right for you. These include acupunctureacupressurereflexology etc. A nice massage and meditation may also help you feel refreshed and balanced.

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Invest in a new piece of technology that allows you to work seamlessly

This can be a new phone, new laptop or anything that will help to streamline your workload and enhance your learning experience. If you’re stuck on a choice, you can find something useful here.

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Invest in a new meal plan that is healthy yet indulgent

The majority of us are foodies but also choose to stay healthy. This month you can try adding some new ingredients to your shopping list or invest in a new meal plan. There are plenty to choose from to have fresh ingredients for new recipes delivered to your doorstep. Try hellofresh or Gousto if you want fantastic meals but don’t want to spend too long in the kitchen.

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Until next time.

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Thoughts on food: The importance of cooking with purpose

When I think about cooking, I immediately think of my mother. For those who know me, know that my mother is the essence of my very being. Her meals are charged with high frequencies that pull me out of the deepest funk. Today, I will journal about the typical Seychellois dish that brings the family together. Even when we are far apart, this dish never fails to bring us joy. 

When I think about my family and Seychelles, I think about the Fresh Grilled Red Snapper with Spicy Creole Sauce, Fresh Rice and Green Pawpaw Satini Papay. The colours glazed on the dining table, evoking a feeling of security, love, joy and compassion. As I enjoy eating the meal, I have to include that watching (because sometimes it’s better to let the professionals get on with it) or helping my mother cook her exceptional dishes is also a magical experience. She chops her ingredients as though they were just picked from the garden, washes the fish with care and infuses positive intentions as she folds the seasoning in the Satini. This is an alchemy that my elder brother also uses and never fails to impress and envelope the devourers who usually ask for a second serving. And you know the food is really delicious when we sit in silence or get stuck in with our (clean) fingers. This is one way we show love for one another and the community. There’s plenty to extend a bowl of nourishment for our extended family. 

For the sweet-toothed, the traditional Ladob is usually a favourite after a Sunday lunch. The plantain and sweet potato, coconut milk, sugar and nutmeg is the foundation that brings warmth and a smile on my face reminiscent of the holiday cheer that compels me to top up my plate until bedtime. However, it’s not the type of dishes that make or break meal times, it’s the person’s energy that fulfils the purpose they want to convey. I find that it’s imperative to churn and actively add positive intention within every meal I cook as I want nothing but the best for my family and guests. 

I dedicate Today’s post to my mother, my big brother and my Seychellois ancestors.

Until next time. xo

Thoughts on spirituality: Five ways to begin or refresh your meditation practice

Let’s talk about meditation. My journey has been quite long, however, fascinating when it comes to meditation. I started my journey three years ago, and the thought of sitting down quietly and watching my breath didn’t appease. At that time, I marveled at the notion of being busy and restless, ensuring that I had a lot of things to do and people to see. My excuse was, “I could never meditate. I can’t get my mind to stop thinking” but then something inside me switched, and I began to understand that meditation was a time to connect with myself with or without thought. Thoughts will always be there, but as you progress with practice, you will be able to automatically quiet your mind. But then comes the time when you fall out of your meditation to practice, sometimes for so long that you dread starting again. Below are the five tips to help you start, whether it’s for the first time or the tenth.

Find a quiet space to reflect

It can be your garden, the bath, or your bedroom, but wherever it is, make it comfortable for yourself so that it’s conducive to meditating. Once you are in this space, try not to focus too much on being thoughtless but more-so reflect on your day, situations, or feelings that stand out to you. Here is where you’ll choose to allow the matter to flow through you and out into the universe.

Write a journal

Writing is a fantastic way to help clear your mind and push negative emotions out and it is a great way to help you materialise your intentions. Words are powerful, and if you choose to study and research them, you will realise that words are spells. You may choose to keep two journals, for releasing negative emotions and thoughts, the other for manifesting your goals. There’s no specific time to journal. Keep it tucked safely in your bag, besides your bed, or anywhere you deem fit. The focus here is to take some time for awareness.

Go for a walk

This is not just any power walk; leave your headphones, and take your time to notice the environment around you, whether it’s on the city streets or the countryside. Pay attention to the sounds and the cycle of how things work, try to see things from a different perspective. How often do you get to slow down and notice things around you? Enjoy and explore.

Try some yoga

You can sign up for a class or follow a free video tutorial; the choice is yours. But when you decided to try yoga, make sure that you do your research and start on a level that is suited to your experience to avoid hurting yourself. Yoga Journal is a great resource to look into.

Watch or listen to something that makes you laugh

Sometimes we all need a healthy dose of laughter. You can relieve the pressure off your meditation practice by simply immersing yourself in content that makes you laugh. You’ll notice that when you’re engaged in this state, your worries will start to melt away, and your body should automatically relax.

Rest in silence

This approach is similar to the first point, sometimes all we need to do is sit or lie in a quiet place. When you rest there long enough, you’ll notice that your body will signal what it needs, and your mind will be receptive to ideas and new thoughts that will encourage your growth.