Spiritual thoughts: Solitude is a joy to experience

In a world that is digitally connected, most are disconnected from themselves. Being busy securing finances on the daily grind is now a part of everyday trends. I see it everywhere, from ideas on creating side hustles and passive incomes to how to manifest and live your best life. One of the positives, though, is that people are beginning to wake up and explore their purpose in this life. Some have handed in their job notice to create income working for themselves, using their talents. Some have jumped off the rat race, sold their belongings, and gone backpacking around the world. This post is not to say that you should do the same. Today, we are exploring the experience of solitude.

When we hear the word solitude, we may think that it is a way of shutting ourselves from the world, binging on Netflix and cake. Perhaps you may also think it’s sitting in a forest in the lotus position while chanting om. With balance, both scenarios are equally powerful because each of us is an individual, with our minds and spirits requiring various ways to process and heal our subconscious trauma. Just because someone is in the forest and the other is on the sofa, it doesn’t mean that one is better than the other. One just needs to be conscious of how one desires to be in solitude for optimum empowerment.

On the other hand, some people avoid solitude because they are afraid of what may come up when they’re alone. You can’t hide from yourself when you’re alone, so to many people, the idea of facing the darkest aspect of themself is scary. One example is that someone who has been hurt in their past may choose to surround themself with people who aren’t necessarily good for them because they are scared of facing the hurt that will surface when they are alone. Likewise, an unhealed person or someone who refuses to take steps to heal will avoid feeling emotions or engaging in conversations and activities that may bring up their past hurt. They choose distractions. And just like a sponge, the subconscious self absorbs all that you experience whether you want to or not. Eventually, it gets heavy and weighs you and your close relationships down. This is why it’s essential to speak, process and heal from emotional trauma.

Being in solitude is not just choosing to be alone to connect with oneself. Yes, it’s beneficial, especially when one is doing healing shadow work or aligning with one’s spiritual gifts. However, you can be around people and still revel in solitude. Some introverts have perfected the ‘my body is here, but my mind is at home’ that they seem to be super chill during a crisis because they have placed themselves in mental solitude that enables them to detach from their physical surroundings. We must be cautious, though. Being in solitude is helpful. However, choosing to hide away and detach out of fear is not always conducive. Yes, life is harsh, and sometimes we encounter people who viciously drain our energy, but we must stay empowered and strong to face our reality.

Until next time.

~J

Thoughts on self-care: My most loved survival items

Life happens. Even if you have a job you love, a great family unit, and a well-rounded human experience. That is just it. Life brings many experiences that sometimes have us reaching for our self-care items for survival. This can be a comfort blanket, a body scrub that energises our body, a favourite beverage or a cute journal to safely pen our thoughts. With spring and Taurus season slowly developing, providing us with the perfect backdrop for a lifestyle elevation in the name of self-care. If you’re looking for something new or a different perspective, my current ride or die faves are below.

Ah, books for the love of books.

My current reads are The Liar’s Wife by Kirsten Modglin, The Wicked Aftermath by Melissa Foster and The Vow by Debbie Howells.

Speaking of body scrubs…

If you’re currently in England, you’ll know that the weather’s doing this weird thing. Hot and promising summer one minute, then teasing cold and depressing another. This has caused my skin to be dehydrated and dull. So queue Sanctuary Spa’s Body scrubs. 

And the comfort blanket…

A heated blanket gets me through all the seasons since England is cold 90% of the year. I also work from home; therefore, it’s essential for me to be comfortably warm (sometimes toasty!) to reach my optimum productivity level.

The beauty product fave…

Everyone will have their preferences here, but for me, an excellent moisturising lipstick in nude and red is highly effective in making me feel good when my shoulders are heavy. My favourite nude is Charlotte Tilbury’s Pillowtalk in medium tone and Illamasqua’s Antimatter lipstick in the colour rocket. 

Plants are the new pets…

Well, not exactly, but we look after them like they are. My current house plant investments are medium-sized parlour palms, a Jade (succulents) plant from Wilkos and a remarkable lava rock plant. 

Vibing with nature

If you haven’t seen the entirety of my website, then feel free to browse and see some fantastic photos I’ve taken of nature with my NIKON COOLPIX P1000. I adore this camera, and I’m so grateful to have received it as a gift. 

Manifesting

Finally, if you want a road out of stagnancy, try using a goal-setting journal to manifest your best life.

Until next time.

~ J

Thoughts on strength: Remember your personal power!

We are often thrust into situations and relationships that are draining. We don’t realise that most times, such relationships, professional or otherwise, have the potential to take our personal power and drain our energy. You probably think that people can only take your power if we let them; however, such energetic transactions usually happen over time. It could be that you’re around a person or in a situation for a while where things transpire that chip away at your energy. What I mean by personal power is the personal gifts and abilities that make us unique in this world. Our confidence, the way we communicate and present ourselves to the world, our level of discipline, hunger and motivation for success, etc. Our personal power is what we embody and how we tell the world that we are here to make a difference.

So when we stay in circumstances that are delinquent, they tend to break down our energy until we wake up one day and realise that we’re walking through life lacklustre, wondering how we got to this point. This could be in relationships where you voluntarily change yourself, hoping that things will get better, only to see that efforts are one-sided. It can also be in intimate relationships, the relationship you have with your job or even with friends and family members. Sometimes, we give our energy externally without realising that the receiver is bleeding us dry. Then we find ourselves in a void of stagnancy. You either gained weight and can’t track how, fallen behind on your workload or projects, and have given up on maintaining a positive body image, which pulls your self-confidence, and you’ve forgotten your worth.

Firstly, when you realise that you’re losing your personal power, it’s time to take a step back and look at your life from all angles. Identify who or what is feeding off your energy. Sometimes this can also be a mental blockage created by a past trauma that you need to revisit and heal from. Then, once you’ve realised what it is that’s draining you, find a way to constructively address it or cut it out of your life. Suppose it’s a loved one or your job which you can’t just cut out of your life. Explore ways to manage them efficiently until you can make a final sustainable decision. Then, work on identifying what’s been taken from you. Have you neglected your physical or mental health? Your spiritual alignment? Your creativity? Etc. Once you do this, find ways to pour back in what you’re missing. Make regular time for yourself and do the work to replenish your vitality. This is not work that is completed overnight. It will require consistent effort to keep you stable and rebuild your confidence. Make a point to be more aware, track your progress, and focus on your growth.

We all waver sometimes. It’s natural to lose track of ourselves as we manoeuvre bumps in the road to personal success. However, when we start to feel the need to hide inside, isolate or overcompensate in the situation, that is when we need to wake up, assess and rebuild.

Until next time.

~J

Thoughts on attachment: It is what it is, learn to let it go

Life is a journey and not always a pleasant one. We meet people along the way, and most often, relationships are built in our childhood that shape our personalities, outlook and subconscious philosophies for the future. As we grow, so does our way of thinking, and it’s not uncommon that we find ourselves longing and reminiscing for connections from our past. Some of these relationships were placed in our path for a reason, whether we deem them good or bad. With some inner work and understanding, only you will know the reason. Sometimes, we long to reconnect with people from our past because they remind us of who we were at a certain point in time. Perhaps, you relish memories of someone from childhood because they remind you of a time when you were free to express yourself and manoeuvre life without the limitations that possibly plague us in adulthood. A job, managing finance, caring for others etc. Sometimes you may go back to connect with someone from the past even if the relationship didn’t end on good terms because you’re facing similar situations now. So your subconscious tries to re-run scenarios to gain wisdom from past lessons to deal with present circumstances.

Nonetheless, situations often occur because they need to for the development of our character and personal consciousness. And most of us are no stranger to experiencing the uncomfortable feelings and thoughts that lingers in the memory bank of past mistakes. But what can we do when such thoughts arise? We can sink deep with eternal dread under the duvet or face them, allowing our subconscious to process the emotions that come with such memories then let them go.

Some thoughts and memories take time to process. However, it’s not uncommon to feel a lingering sense of embarrassment and doom as we heal. Find ways to ease the process and comfort yourself. Maybe even use techniques to divert your attention towards the positives of life, such as journaling, meditating and speaking to a counsellor without judgement. Life’s merciless, and it doesn’t get easier. We just find ways to better navigate the self and circumstances. So take your time and trust in your process. The light at the end of the tunnel isn’t too far out.

Until next time.

~J

Thoughts on technology: The truth about social media

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Social media is exhausting. It’s not my intention to start today’s post with a negative tone, and I certainly don’t want to persuade anyone to steer clear of it. However, throughout my years of observation, research and actions to support the visibility of my author brand, I am confident in stating the reality of the machine that is social media. It is exhausting. If you’re looking for ways to promote your brand or business online, you have most likely come across generic blogs that claim to have the golden formula for social media success. They draw you in with promising titles claiming their strategies will give you the upper hand with online visibility by beating the algorithms of social media platforms. The truth is, nobody really knows how the algorithms work. (Unless you work for the company). Yes, you can observe and test, but platforms can change these at any time. Therefore what may have worked yesterday may not work next week.

However, social media platforms provide a free way to help you build an audience for your brand. You can put in as much effort as you want, and it is possible to build a steady following relatively quickly depending on your niche, consistency and content quality. For me, social media has been helpful, although it’s often draining because of the consistency I chose to post. Most often, I need to detach from the world and go within for a few days and during this time, opening up apps to post content is at the bottom of my priority list. This is where I utilise social media post schedulers. However, I do like to see the engagement levels for each post. If I do this, though, I find myself bombarded with all sorts of stimulating content that drains my energy. So during my hermit modes, I choose to commit to staying entirely off social media for a few days to focus on my inner work.

This year, if you’re thinking about utilising social media to boost marketing for your brand and grow an audience, think about how much time you’re willing to invest in creating content and tracking your engagement. Make a conscious decision to be on social media purely for business but in a way that makes your account relatable. Also, remember that even if you’re online, you need to set energetic boundaries; otherwise, you’ll find yourself sinking with the distractions, which could be detrimental to your mental health.

Social media doesn’t have to be a monster, and when used correctly, you can leverage it to build your online community. Some people have significantly contributed to the elevation of humanity’s consciousness on social media by sharing knowledge, wisdom, motivation and remote support. On the other hand, some choose to deliberately churn out content that, if you lack self-awareness, will sink you deep in demise. And then, there are the people who have no conscious purpose for their social media usage. They just post, scroll and follow trends without questions. Whatever you decide to do, make sure that you’re doing it for your highest and greatest good, whether to showcase your talent, boost your brand visibility, or raise awareness for a cause.

Until next time.

Thoughts on rest: The importance of taking R&R

Today’s post is on the importance of taking some time for rest and relaxation. It has become a habit of mine to schedule in some rest during the weekend yet, something always demands my attention. The laundry, new creative ideas to action, grocery shopping, or even catching up on exercising. This week though, I have vowed to create space for my R&R at all cost. Yes, J.P. Mooney is doing absolutely nothing but meditating, indulging in relaxing baths and sleeping. I wish everyone peace, balance and bliss. Don’t forget to take some time out because if you’re not good, you can’t help others. Let the universe pour into your cup.

Until next time xo

Thoughts on vibes: Watch out for the energy vampire (Sometimes it’s you!)

You’ve heard the term Energy Vampire, and I’m sure you know what it means, but for those of you who don’t, see below.

A person who boosts his own energy by taking energy from others by means of an argument, belittlement, criticism or other one-sided conversation. – Urban Dictionary

It is widespread to have interactions with energy vamps. Even if you live alone and work from home, as long as you have the technology, social media, television etc., your energy is getting drained from somewhere. However, it’s not impossible to deal with them. You just need to know your stance in life and have a solid sense of self. Here are some quick tips to help you manage energy vampires.

Set firm, healthy boundaries.

No is a complete sentence. Have a clear vision of what and who you want to engage with in your life. Evaluate situations before you say yes, and don’t be afraid of saying no. Most times, when you’re coming from an honest space, you’ll find that you won’t need to make up excuses or apologise for saying no. Of course, the right people will understand your boundaries, and the wrong people will have a problem with it, but still, the answer is no.

Be aware.

Make an effort to tune into your surroundings and listen to people. Sometimes it could be that an energy vampire chooses to dump their funk on you because they don’t have anyone else to talk to. Maybe they need nurturing and love. You can choose to meet them with love but at your own pace. Don’t insert yourself into a counselling role if you are not equipped. Instead, you can lovingly encourage them to book an appointment with a professional.

Have self-awareness.

Perhaps you’ve had a horrible day at work, fought with a loved one or just felt funky. This doesn’t mean that other people are open and ready to listen to your rants. Have regular check-ins with yourself. Tune into your needs and find ways to meet them. Yes, you can speak to people but have the self-awareness to ensure you’re not draining their energy. 

Be honest.

When you feel uncomfortable around someone or drained by specific interactions, be honest with yourself and accept that maybe they’re not the person you need to be around at that moment. Usually, people get the hint when you’re ready to withdraw and move on from situations; however, some people are stuck in their bubble. Be constructive and positive, letting them know that you have to leave. 

Until next time.

Thoughts on success: Have Faith- You’ve Got This

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It’s the start of a new year, and it’s no surprise that some of you are feeling pressure from your environment. Social media makes it appear that you should have all your ducks in a row and live your best life. Although most mean well, coaches and gurus are pushing for you to do great this year. The pressure of starting a new year is very real, just like celebrating any milestones. Today though, take a breath and be in the moment. It’s normal to not feel like everyone else. It’s okay to want to sleep or bury your head in a good book. What matters is that you are aware that your motivation and execution of your plans will come at the right time for you. Whatever the size of your goals this year, or even for the years to come, have faith in your ability to make it happen. Trust in your ability to create abundance for yourself and spread positivity to others.

Until next time.