Thoughts on personal development: Simply exploring the power of choosing motivational language to win at life.

Today’s post will focus on your power of awareness and its role in choosing the correct language for your advancement. We often busy our days trying to fulfil tasks without paying attention to how we communicate in different situations. However, as intellectual beings, we have the power to choose, arrange and rearrange language to achieve our desired effects in all situations because if you study, look and listen carefully to words, you will understand that each one has the power to create or halt change.

Let’s begin with how language and words are powerful in relation to finance. I want to point your attention to phrases that you may often use.

‘I’m sorry I can’t do this activity this week, I don’t have any money.’

‘I can’t wait for payday, I’m so broke.’

The choice of words used here immediately limits your ability to be receptive to ways that money can actually flow to you. Thus automatically locking you in a lack mindset. You should understand that beyond the material world, money is currency, and currency is energy; therefore, energy does not rest in limit and lack. You just need to find a way to keep it flowing. By stating that you don’t have any money or that you’re broke, you’ve subconsciously stopped the flow of the energy of money into your life. So how do we change this? By removing low-vibrational words associated with lack mindset.

‘I’m on a budget this week, let’s plan this activity for next month where I can factor it into my budget, and we can have fun.’

‘Payday is around the corner. In the meantime, I will work with what I have. Next month I will ensure to manage my budget and cash-flow effectively.’

This does not automatically hand you money out of thin air but opens your mind to ways to manage your finances so that you’re not in the same situation next month. It nudges you to make a plan that factors your financial needs and eliminates dread and embarrassment. This concept can be applied to any aspect of your life, such as health and fitness, business and career, to how you manage your close relationships. Try to approach situations consciously and see solutions rather than focus on the negative aspect of problems.

Until next time.

Thoughts on personal development: The power of language – 3 Phrases to scrap from your vocabulary

Today’s post aims to bring awareness to your use of language. Communication is often misunderstood or misused, especially when we use specific negative language to talk to ourselves and others. Language is a powerful tool that can make or break your day. The words you choose have the opportunity to create a supportive community or conflict yet, sometimes we don’t even think twice about how we linguistically project ourselves to the world. We have the power to change ourselves, our reality and the world through the use of positive language by being conscious about what we consume and project. The following points are five words and phrases to be aware of and scrap from your vocabulary if you want to further pursue your self-development journey and create a reality you desire. 

‘I can’t do this’

When it comes to achieving your goals, trying something new or even working on personal confidence, it’s good to begin to train your subconscious mind by using firm words that opens enthusiasm and prompts action. Using the word ‘Can’t’ automatically creates a negative bias and diminishes your confidence when your aim is to take action. Unless you are using this word in a situation where you are creating firm boundaries, using this word illustrates unsureness about your ability to utilise your strength, will power and motivation. If you know that you have the skills and resources to help you reach your goals, using ‘can’t’ will stir up doubt and cause your efforts to falter. This will also give people the impression that you don’t trust yourself. It takes time, however, try to replace ‘I can’t do this’ with ‘I can do anything I put my mind to’ and eventually simply ‘I CAN do this.’

‘I hate this, that and everyone’

This is one of the most commonly used phrases, and I have to admit that I have used it a few times in testing situations. When you think about the word hate, it’s not necessarily a negative word but rather a low-vibration word. We often use it in frustration and low-vibrational situations. When you’re on a journey of self-development and expanding consciousness, you’ll begin to understand that we are all connected to each other and our surroundings. Suppose you are in a low-vibrational environment or situation; your goal is to raise your frequency so that you are unaffected by external factors and instead, have the ability to transmute the chaos into your lessons and gains. How will you learn about yourself if you constantly carry a funk in your heart that’s not even yours? How can you grow into your highest and best version of yourself doing what you love if you’re projecting hatred and spending your valuable energy on people and situations that don’t serve you? I’m not suggesting that we walk around pretending to love everything and everyone. However, changing the word ‘hate’ and associating it with empathy, understanding, and learning will become more productive for you when life gets chaotic. When you build anger, or you feel a dislike for something, try to explore ‘I’m not keen on this, but at least I have experienced it and can move on’ or by taking a breath and acknowledging why you feel this ‘hate’ so that you can address the uncomfortable within.

‘I am sick’

Yes, we all have days when we fall under the weather, and ailments plague us, but it’s worth noting that you become what you consistently tell yourself you are and feel. Some days you can’t deny that you’re unwell, especially when you are swamped with extra stress. Instead of declaring ‘I am sick’, try ‘I am healing and I will rest’. This will slowly lift your mood and place your mind in a receptive mode to find resources to make you feel better and heal. I am not a doctor, and this is not a replacement for a medical appointment but to help support your thoughts as your body heals. 

Remember that there are no golden formula or shortcuts to reach your goals and deal with situations along your journey. It’s all about perspective and changing angles to understand the lessons hidden in the chaos. Be aware of what you want to embody and what you put out in the world and onto others. Keep going and find ways to enjoy the experience.

Until Next time.

Thoughts on discipline: How to mind your business and do you

The title grabbed your attention, and I bet you’re expecting today’s post to be catty. If you’re new to this blog, you should know that this is not how we vibe here. Sure, I strive to keep my posts relatable and engaging; however, my core value and aim are to open explorative conversations and help readers find solutions as they journey towards their higher purpose. This week I thought about the action of minding one’s business. This is not to necessarily say that we should shut ourselves out by sitting in the house with a pout thinking that we are better than everyone else, no. My reflection on this is that sometimes, we lose awareness of ourselves and fall off track when trying to achieve our goals. Sometimes, we also don’t realise that other people have infiltrated our mental and emotional space leaving us energetically empty. This is usually achieved as we scroll through social media which prompts us to care way too much about what everyone else is doing. In return, it makes us feel bad because we’re not doing the same thing and having the same ‘fun’ as celebrities and influencers. It may also be a case of having family, friends or even colleagues constantly dumping their unwanted funk onto you. Most of us know one person we feel stuck with (because sometimes the universal lessons take a lot longer than expected) and have to consistently protect our energy because nothing in their life makes them happy. Whatever the case may be, there are people and situations lurking like landmines that catch us off guard now and then. If you find yourself caught in too deep with someone else’s situation and detached from your own growth, below points may help you to reconnect with the self.

Meditate like your life depends on it

There are several ways to meditate, and you don’t have to jump into a full hour of meditation if you’ve never done this before. Find a quiet place and allow your mind to wander to eventually be still. You can also meditate on the breath as a guide to balance your mind when it’s full of chatter. Do this a few times a day and be patient with yourself as you go through the process. Eventually, meditation will be integrated into your self-care and mental health routine, enabling you to be aware, fluid and adaptable in situations and around people.

Mine your business

In the age of technology, social media and faster wifi connections, it’s becoming increasingly easier to create a side hustle doing something you love and boosting your income. Suppose you find yourself always complaining about how much you hate your job or your current financial situation and seeing other people living their best lives tick you off. In that case, it’s time to consider removing the lack mindset and tap into your entrepreneurial spirit. You don’t need much to start a business, for most of them you only need a phone and good wifi. Figure out what you love doing for free and find a way to get paid for it. Do note that it’s essential to do your research and start small to build your clients and your brand. Ensure that you have all the facts before you make any financial investments. I can’t promise that you’ll be wealthy and successful quickly because having a business takes time and sacrifices. However, the process will keep you occupied, excited and disciplined; therefore, you’ll barely have time to be concerned with what everyone else is doing.

Read books

I’m sure you’ve heard this before, but books are packed with information that will fascinate you. Business and finance, fiction, health and wellness and the list go on. Below are books I currently recommend.

Business and finance knowledge: Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki, Richistan by Robert Frank, The intelligent investor by Benjamin Graham

Fiction escapism: Mated Fortune Series by J.P. Mooney, Ice Cold Boss by Olivia Hayle, The Family Upstairs by Lisa Jewell

Poetry: Mercury Retrograde Poems by J.P. Mooney, Sea Sores: A Brightonian Book by Nick Wood, Pillow Thoughts by Courtney Peppernell

Consciousness expansion: Sciencia by Matthew Watkins, The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene, Ley Lines by J.P. Mooney

Some of you may find it difficult to detach and focus on your growth in the current age. It’s important to understand that sometimes we may go through undesirable situations. However, there’s always a lesson in disguise. Just remember to reflect, acknowledge the lesson and keep moving forward.

Until next time.

Thoughts on knowledge: The importance of reading

Reading is a great resource to find information for educational purposes and self-development. I have to be honest and confess that I couldn’t always read and write confidently in the English language. But I will always remember a wise person’s words that were told to me as a young person, ‘reading is the key that opens doors into new dimensions’. Growing up, I always thought that only ‘serious’ books were educational. Thus, the authors who wrote them were the only voices worth expanding my library for. I even thought ‘real writers’ and ‘real books’ didn’t belong on a kindle. Of course, that was me at such a young age, before I even dreamed of writing stories or building a literature business. For me, reading is and will always continue to be a way into gaining self-knowledge, to detach and re-charge my energy, and enter a world full of opportunities regardless of the genre.

Books are portals to indulge in fantasy, connect with characters and explore the author’s expression. They are also a way to understand history, culture and the expansion of life. It doesn’t really matter if you’re excellent at reading and writing, what matters is our overall understanding of the messages that have been written on pages and how we use it to improve our lives. You can also use books as a way to communicate and connect with people, to teach the generations to come. Regardless of personal preference in genre, kindle or kobo, Amazon or bookshop, we are moving into deeper integration with technology where authors’ works will become even more accessible. Now is the right time to venture into new genres and explore someone’s story.

What are you currently reading?

Until next time.