Thoughts on Strength: You are strong

Just a reminder to reinforce the knowledge that you are strong. Much stronger than you think you are and much braver than you thought you were. Life is full of twists and turns. Even when you feel alone, believe in yourself. Yes, friends and family can support and nurture you; however, you are the key to making your success happen. Don’t put blind faith in people when you don’t believe in yourself first. Use your discernment and trust in divine timing. The weather has been horrendous, reflective of some of our internal struggles, but the more we choose to stay in alignment with our highest and divine self, the more we can push past obstacles and make our mark on this world. People will come and go but keep learning the lessons and remain aware to manifest your dreams better. Life is not over until we choose to give up.

Until next time.

Thoughts on survival: Sometimes ‘No’ is the new ‘Yes’

I don’t mean that we should use the word ‘no’ in order to say yes. Today’s post is dedicated to the people pleasers. How many times have you said yes to invitations, to doing favours and in general to anything that doesn’t align with your beliefs or doesn’t serve you? I’ve been guilty of doing this until I sat down and explored why I was always saying yes when most wouldn’t do the same for me. This was exceptionally frustrating at the beginning of my publishing journey. I thought that saying yes to marketing proposals, website developers, or anything that could help me move forward quickly with my authorship had to have been sent my way for great benefits. Then I realised that most of these ‘influencers and promoters’ were actually well versed in creating fake accounts with fake followers to scam people out of money. That’s the truth from my experience. And the same goes for energy vampires in our daily lives.

Some people recognised my strength as an excellent listener to consistently dump their problems on me. Some came for advice only to not take it (which is fine) and usually came back with the same problems. Enough was enough. As much as I wanted to be abrupt and tell such people where to go…I was mindful of the law of cause and effect. Most times, I was in a professional setting or was motivated to create a professional network. Therefore, being uncouth was not the right way to go. After re-evaluating myself and my circumstances, I realised that people would always be people, and I will always be myself. I had to address something within that would attract positive, high-vibrational and productive people into my reality.

I realised that I was behaving desperately. Subconsciously, I was desperate to get my break, create content quickly, and gain a vast audience. After this realisation, I addressed this desperation with a plan of what I wanted to achieve. The truth is, I didn’t care about all of the above. I just wanted to be creative, create quality content and help people. It didn’t matter if only one person read my work as long as they took something constructive or entertaining from my writing. I stopped comparing myself to industry recognised authors and social media influencers. I knew that I was in my own lane, executing my success in my own way. So, I started working slowly and with intent. I learned about the subjects I wanted to write, and I even took a Neuro Linguistic Programming course to maximise my drive. I started saying no to people, and although unsteady at first, it eventually started feeling good. Now, when I say no, I’m ensuring that I keep my priorities in mind and I don’t feel guilty. Some people try to manipulate, but it doesn’t work because I’m grounded in my vision as an independent writer. I am also grounded in knowing who I am as a person.

The point from this post is if you ever feel like you can’t say no, take some time to go within and address the programming of your subconscious. Once you ground yourself, external factors will no longer affect you. Remember your bigger picture and keep going regardless.

Until next time.

Thoughts on success: Stop advertising your plans, show your results

I’m sure many of you have heard that your biggest supporters are usually strangers and your biggest hater is someone close to you. As you progress through your elevation and becoming the best version of yourselves, many people will try to find ways to bring you down. Many will fabricate obstacles using their words and possible actions to interfere with your process and halt your progress. You need to know that nobody can come in the way of the blessings that were printed on your journey and your heart. As much as you feel you might be failing in your ventures, always remember that if it’s what you are supposed to be doing, it will happen. You just have to persevere. Therefore, one good note is to stop advertising your plans. In the game of entrepreneurship and levelling up your life, you need to maintain a balance between your ego and your dreams. As difficult as it may be not to tell people what you’re doing, you need to understand that not everyone has your best interest in their heart and possibly do not want you to succeed. This may even be buried in the subconscious of the people that are close to you. The people who love you.

Excel in your endeavours by adhering diligently to your plans and show people your results. Remember that your dreams are yours and yours alone. People are placed in your path to teach you lessons about the self, and sh*t happens to build your courage and character. There is no golden formula, and if winning were easy, everyone would be doing it.

Until next time.

Thoughts on personal development: Simply exploring the power of choosing motivational language to win at life.

Today’s post will focus on your power of awareness and its role in choosing the correct language for your advancement. We often busy our days trying to fulfil tasks without paying attention to how we communicate in different situations. However, as intellectual beings, we have the power to choose, arrange and rearrange language to achieve our desired effects in all situations because if you study, look and listen carefully to words, you will understand that each one has the power to create or halt change.

Let’s begin with how language and words are powerful in relation to finance. I want to point your attention to phrases that you may often use.

‘I’m sorry I can’t do this activity this week, I don’t have any money.’

‘I can’t wait for payday, I’m so broke.’

The choice of words used here immediately limits your ability to be receptive to ways that money can actually flow to you. Thus automatically locking you in a lack mindset. You should understand that beyond the material world, money is currency, and currency is energy; therefore, energy does not rest in limit and lack. You just need to find a way to keep it flowing. By stating that you don’t have any money or that you’re broke, you’ve subconsciously stopped the flow of the energy of money into your life. So how do we change this? By removing low-vibrational words associated with lack mindset.

‘I’m on a budget this week, let’s plan this activity for next month where I can factor it into my budget, and we can have fun.’

‘Payday is around the corner. In the meantime, I will work with what I have. Next month I will ensure to manage my budget and cash-flow effectively.’

This does not automatically hand you money out of thin air but opens your mind to ways to manage your finances so that you’re not in the same situation next month. It nudges you to make a plan that factors your financial needs and eliminates dread and embarrassment. This concept can be applied to any aspect of your life, such as health and fitness, business and career, to how you manage your close relationships. Try to approach situations consciously and see solutions rather than focus on the negative aspect of problems.

Until next time.

Thoughts on personal development: The power of language – 3 Phrases to scrap from your vocabulary

Today’s post aims to bring awareness to your use of language. Communication is often misunderstood or misused, especially when we use specific negative language to talk to ourselves and others. Language is a powerful tool that can make or break your day. The words you choose have the opportunity to create a supportive community or conflict yet, sometimes we don’t even think twice about how we linguistically project ourselves to the world. We have the power to change ourselves, our reality and the world through the use of positive language by being conscious about what we consume and project. The following points are five words and phrases to be aware of and scrap from your vocabulary if you want to further pursue your self-development journey and create a reality you desire. 

‘I can’t do this’

When it comes to achieving your goals, trying something new or even working on personal confidence, it’s good to begin to train your subconscious mind by using firm words that opens enthusiasm and prompts action. Using the word ‘Can’t’ automatically creates a negative bias and diminishes your confidence when your aim is to take action. Unless you are using this word in a situation where you are creating firm boundaries, using this word illustrates unsureness about your ability to utilise your strength, will power and motivation. If you know that you have the skills and resources to help you reach your goals, using ‘can’t’ will stir up doubt and cause your efforts to falter. This will also give people the impression that you don’t trust yourself. It takes time, however, try to replace ‘I can’t do this’ with ‘I can do anything I put my mind to’ and eventually simply ‘I CAN do this.’

‘I hate this, that and everyone’

This is one of the most commonly used phrases, and I have to admit that I have used it a few times in testing situations. When you think about the word hate, it’s not necessarily a negative word but rather a low-vibration word. We often use it in frustration and low-vibrational situations. When you’re on a journey of self-development and expanding consciousness, you’ll begin to understand that we are all connected to each other and our surroundings. Suppose you are in a low-vibrational environment or situation; your goal is to raise your frequency so that you are unaffected by external factors and instead, have the ability to transmute the chaos into your lessons and gains. How will you learn about yourself if you constantly carry a funk in your heart that’s not even yours? How can you grow into your highest and best version of yourself doing what you love if you’re projecting hatred and spending your valuable energy on people and situations that don’t serve you? I’m not suggesting that we walk around pretending to love everything and everyone. However, changing the word ‘hate’ and associating it with empathy, understanding, and learning will become more productive for you when life gets chaotic. When you build anger, or you feel a dislike for something, try to explore ‘I’m not keen on this, but at least I have experienced it and can move on’ or by taking a breath and acknowledging why you feel this ‘hate’ so that you can address the uncomfortable within.

‘I am sick’

Yes, we all have days when we fall under the weather, and ailments plague us, but it’s worth noting that you become what you consistently tell yourself you are and feel. Some days you can’t deny that you’re unwell, especially when you are swamped with extra stress. Instead of declaring ‘I am sick’, try ‘I am healing and I will rest’. This will slowly lift your mood and place your mind in a receptive mode to find resources to make you feel better and heal. I am not a doctor, and this is not a replacement for a medical appointment but to help support your thoughts as your body heals. 

Remember that there are no golden formula or shortcuts to reach your goals and deal with situations along your journey. It’s all about perspective and changing angles to understand the lessons hidden in the chaos. Be aware of what you want to embody and what you put out in the world and onto others. Keep going and find ways to enjoy the experience.

Until Next time.

Thoughts on discipline: How to mind your business and do you

The title grabbed your attention, and I bet you’re expecting today’s post to be catty. If you’re new to this blog, you should know that this is not how we vibe here. Sure, I strive to keep my posts relatable and engaging; however, my core value and aim are to open explorative conversations and help readers find solutions as they journey towards their higher purpose. This week I thought about the action of minding one’s business. This is not to necessarily say that we should shut ourselves out by sitting in the house with a pout thinking that we are better than everyone else, no. My reflection on this is that sometimes, we lose awareness of ourselves and fall off track when trying to achieve our goals. Sometimes, we also don’t realise that other people have infiltrated our mental and emotional space leaving us energetically empty. This is usually achieved as we scroll through social media which prompts us to care way too much about what everyone else is doing. In return, it makes us feel bad because we’re not doing the same thing and having the same ‘fun’ as celebrities and influencers. It may also be a case of having family, friends or even colleagues constantly dumping their unwanted funk onto you. Most of us know one person we feel stuck with (because sometimes the universal lessons take a lot longer than expected) and have to consistently protect our energy because nothing in their life makes them happy. Whatever the case may be, there are people and situations lurking like landmines that catch us off guard now and then. If you find yourself caught in too deep with someone else’s situation and detached from your own growth, below points may help you to reconnect with the self.

Meditate like your life depends on it

There are several ways to meditate, and you don’t have to jump into a full hour of meditation if you’ve never done this before. Find a quiet place and allow your mind to wander to eventually be still. You can also meditate on the breath as a guide to balance your mind when it’s full of chatter. Do this a few times a day and be patient with yourself as you go through the process. Eventually, meditation will be integrated into your self-care and mental health routine, enabling you to be aware, fluid and adaptable in situations and around people.

Mine your business

In the age of technology, social media and faster wifi connections, it’s becoming increasingly easier to create a side hustle doing something you love and boosting your income. Suppose you find yourself always complaining about how much you hate your job or your current financial situation and seeing other people living their best lives tick you off. In that case, it’s time to consider removing the lack mindset and tap into your entrepreneurial spirit. You don’t need much to start a business, for most of them you only need a phone and good wifi. Figure out what you love doing for free and find a way to get paid for it. Do note that it’s essential to do your research and start small to build your clients and your brand. Ensure that you have all the facts before you make any financial investments. I can’t promise that you’ll be wealthy and successful quickly because having a business takes time and sacrifices. However, the process will keep you occupied, excited and disciplined; therefore, you’ll barely have time to be concerned with what everyone else is doing.

Read books

I’m sure you’ve heard this before, but books are packed with information that will fascinate you. Business and finance, fiction, health and wellness and the list go on. Below are books I currently recommend.

Business and finance knowledge: Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki, Richistan by Robert Frank, The intelligent investor by Benjamin Graham

Fiction escapism: Mated Fortune Series by J.P. Mooney, Ice Cold Boss by Olivia Hayle, The Family Upstairs by Lisa Jewell

Poetry: Mercury Retrograde Poems by J.P. Mooney, Sea Sores: A Brightonian Book by Nick Wood, Pillow Thoughts by Courtney Peppernell

Consciousness expansion: Sciencia by Matthew Watkins, The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene, Ley Lines by J.P. Mooney

Some of you may find it difficult to detach and focus on your growth in the current age. It’s important to understand that sometimes we may go through undesirable situations. However, there’s always a lesson in disguise. Just remember to reflect, acknowledge the lesson and keep moving forward.

Until next time.

Thoughts on success: My five favourite tips for being productive

Hello there!

I hope everyone’s having a great start to the week. It is now officially autumn in the UK and it has surely been an interesting year so far. Today, I woke up thinking about productivity. In the midst of the pandemic there’s no doubt that we’ve had to change our way of thinking, planning and doing. Some of us have taken the situation in our stride when it comes to business, using the time spent at home to tick things off our To-Do List while others have simply fallen in a slump of confusion. Whichever side you fall into, perhaps the below tips will assist you in executing your short term goals effectively.

Prioritise your list

This is a simple way to choose your most important task on the list. You can do this by doing your most dreaded task first or by executing the tasks that will create a foundation for other things on your list. However, you decide to use this approach, it is important that you try to keep the process simple and fun.

Get ahead of the game

A lot of us are guilty of leaving things until the very last minute. In most cases, you’ll find that if you just leap into doing the tasks on your list the night before, the feeling of accomplishment tend to motivate you to continue doing things on your list and before you know it, it’s all done. The good thing about this is, if you’re motivated to do everything the night before, you can enjoy some extra time in bed the next morning since the dreaded list is not hanging over your head.

Turn on or turn off distractions

It’s easier for some to turn on music or background noise while they work and it’s a necessity for others to switch off all distractions. Do whatever works for you but don’t get carried away. The purpose of this is to create an environment that motivates you to tap into discipline and get things done!

Try not to take breaks

When it comes to short term goals, i’ve found that the best approach for me to execute tasks is to get it all done at once. Let’s face it, the list is there because you’re probably falling behind on your work so why waste time in between when you can just have it all done and enjoy a rewarding hot beverage afterwards.

Just say no

We are all guilty of saying yes to menial tasks that we simply do not have the capacity to complete within a short timeframe. As your business evolves, you will need to have the courage to simply say no when you know that you are unable to fully commit to demands. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with this and only you know what is best for you when it comes to managing demands however, please take your mental health into consideration. Being burnt out and missing deadlines could potentially discourage clients.