Thoughts on life: The chaos of unbalanced people

I’m sure you’ve heard the saying, “your light attracts moths, and your warmth attracts parasites”. Energetically unbalanced people aren’t always negative, but in my experience, they do always bring chaos. Some are manipulative, and others are experts at gaslighting your emotions. The interesting thing is that when you take the time to look past the mask they wear or their armoured walls, you can see that these people are often broken from emotional trauma, usually from childhood which they refuse to address and heal. 

We’re all a little chaotic at times, but we are focusing on the toxic people who refuse to see the pain they cause in others through their actions and words. They are particularly dangerous when you coexist with them in friendships, romantic relationships or family dynamics. I am not a therapist, nor am I an expert in dealing with these archetypes; however, I have experienced my fair share of chaotic encounters and have an opinion. What I have come to realise is that these people are genuinely self-centred. No, not self-loving, but merely they reside in self-hatred that they would go out of their way to ensure you become the same. Whether consciously or subconsciously, they break you down slowly with their manipulation and tantrums until you give in to their demands whilst you slowly lose pieces of yourself. Then you wake up one day and wonder why you feel exhausted all the time and realise that you’ve lost your passion for living life. Sometimes you may even start to develop physical or emotional aches and pains that don’t even belong to you. 

Because you are in such proximity to these people, bending over backwards to make them happy, you start to embody what they are, as your world and theirs merge into one. Energetically, the dominant forces always win, and in this case, if you’re unaware of these archetypes, you indeed end up defeated by their chaos. If you think you have this person in your life, you need to be sure who you’re dealing with. Once you realise what they are, take measures to detach and protect your energy. You’ll have plenty of individuals come into your life throughout your lifespan, and I believe we meet different people who teach us lessons. However, having strong discernment is necessary to ensure that we learn these lessons quickly and move on with minimal damage to our psyche. 

Until next time. 

Thoughts on attachment: It is what it is, learn to let it go

Life is a journey and not always a pleasant one. We meet people along the way, and most often, relationships are built in our childhood that shape our personalities, outlook and subconscious philosophies for the future. As we grow, so does our way of thinking, and it’s not uncommon that we find ourselves longing and reminiscing for connections from our past. Some of these relationships were placed in our path for a reason, whether we deem them good or bad. With some inner work and understanding, only you will know the reason. Sometimes, we long to reconnect with people from our past because they remind us of who we were at a certain point in time. Perhaps, you relish memories of someone from childhood because they remind you of a time when you were free to express yourself and manoeuvre life without the limitations that possibly plague us in adulthood. A job, managing finance, caring for others etc. Sometimes you may go back to connect with someone from the past even if the relationship didn’t end on good terms because you’re facing similar situations now. So your subconscious tries to re-run scenarios to gain wisdom from past lessons to deal with present circumstances.

Nonetheless, situations often occur because they need to for the development of our character and personal consciousness. And most of us are no stranger to experiencing the uncomfortable feelings and thoughts that lingers in the memory bank of past mistakes. But what can we do when such thoughts arise? We can sink deep with eternal dread under the duvet or face them, allowing our subconscious to process the emotions that come with such memories then let them go.

Some thoughts and memories take time to process. However, it’s not uncommon to feel a lingering sense of embarrassment and doom as we heal. Find ways to ease the process and comfort yourself. Maybe even use techniques to divert your attention towards the positives of life, such as journaling, meditating and speaking to a counsellor without judgement. Life’s merciless, and it doesn’t get easier. We just find ways to better navigate the self and circumstances. So take your time and trust in your process. The light at the end of the tunnel isn’t too far out.

Until next time.

~J

Thoughts on rest: The importance of taking R&R

Today’s post is on the importance of taking some time for rest and relaxation. It has become a habit of mine to schedule in some rest during the weekend yet, something always demands my attention. The laundry, new creative ideas to action, grocery shopping, or even catching up on exercising. This week though, I have vowed to create space for my R&R at all cost. Yes, J.P. Mooney is doing absolutely nothing but meditating, indulging in relaxing baths and sleeping. I wish everyone peace, balance and bliss. Don’t forget to take some time out because if you’re not good, you can’t help others. Let the universe pour into your cup.

Until next time xo

Thoughts on change: Going with the flow

As we enter autumn, the day closes earlier, and the cold weather seeps into our pores. Remember to move with the flow of life and take some time to reconnect with yourself. This is a time to elevate your self-care routine and indulge in the fall aesthetic as well as balancing productivity. Immerse yourself in creative projects and open your perspective to abundance. If you can see a better life for yourself, know that you have what it takes to create it. Take manageable steps and stay aligned with your discernment. On a metaphysical note, the veil is now thinning, therefore protect your energy and mental health. Do the work required to manifest and stay aligned with the best version of yourself. Whether it’s meditation, yoga, deep breathing or journaling, make time for your practice. Remember, the fiercest character most times evolves from chaos and uncertainty. I wish everyone the very best in doing what is best for you.

Until next time.

Thoughts on attachment: 3 signs it’s time for you to move on

We’ve all been in situations where we feel stuck or overwhelmed and wondered if there’s more to look forward to over the wall of opportunities. The truth is that there’s always something that we could work towards. However, most times, our visions are clouded. We become stuck in our daily routines, which eventually grinds our energy and suppress our growth. Below are a few signs that you’re ready to move on from a situation. 

You feel anxious 

Whether it’s a toxic environment at your job or home, feeling suffocated by a co-dependent relationship or like you’re consistently facing failure in your projects, the anxiety you feel may be overwhelming to the point that it clouds your judgement and prevents you from moving on. If you feel anxious every time you’re in a situation, you need to evaluate where you stand and make a plan to move on to something better. 

You’re no longer fulfilled or motivated.

You know it’s time for you to move on when everything you engage in no longer brings fulfilment and joy. Maybe try to divert your attention to what serves you and make you feel motivated. 

You dread discussions

If you’re always left feeling like the loser in discussions that you think are worth having, you need to re-evaluate if it’s worth having those discussions with the people who dismiss your feelings and concerns. 

Until next time.

Thoughts on personal development: The power of language – 3 Phrases to scrap from your vocabulary

Today’s post aims to bring awareness to your use of language. Communication is often misunderstood or misused, especially when we use specific negative language to talk to ourselves and others. Language is a powerful tool that can make or break your day. The words you choose have the opportunity to create a supportive community or conflict yet, sometimes we don’t even think twice about how we linguistically project ourselves to the world. We have the power to change ourselves, our reality and the world through the use of positive language by being conscious about what we consume and project. The following points are five words and phrases to be aware of and scrap from your vocabulary if you want to further pursue your self-development journey and create a reality you desire. 

‘I can’t do this’

When it comes to achieving your goals, trying something new or even working on personal confidence, it’s good to begin to train your subconscious mind by using firm words that opens enthusiasm and prompts action. Using the word ‘Can’t’ automatically creates a negative bias and diminishes your confidence when your aim is to take action. Unless you are using this word in a situation where you are creating firm boundaries, using this word illustrates unsureness about your ability to utilise your strength, will power and motivation. If you know that you have the skills and resources to help you reach your goals, using ‘can’t’ will stir up doubt and cause your efforts to falter. This will also give people the impression that you don’t trust yourself. It takes time, however, try to replace ‘I can’t do this’ with ‘I can do anything I put my mind to’ and eventually simply ‘I CAN do this.’

‘I hate this, that and everyone’

This is one of the most commonly used phrases, and I have to admit that I have used it a few times in testing situations. When you think about the word hate, it’s not necessarily a negative word but rather a low-vibration word. We often use it in frustration and low-vibrational situations. When you’re on a journey of self-development and expanding consciousness, you’ll begin to understand that we are all connected to each other and our surroundings. Suppose you are in a low-vibrational environment or situation; your goal is to raise your frequency so that you are unaffected by external factors and instead, have the ability to transmute the chaos into your lessons and gains. How will you learn about yourself if you constantly carry a funk in your heart that’s not even yours? How can you grow into your highest and best version of yourself doing what you love if you’re projecting hatred and spending your valuable energy on people and situations that don’t serve you? I’m not suggesting that we walk around pretending to love everything and everyone. However, changing the word ‘hate’ and associating it with empathy, understanding, and learning will become more productive for you when life gets chaotic. When you build anger, or you feel a dislike for something, try to explore ‘I’m not keen on this, but at least I have experienced it and can move on’ or by taking a breath and acknowledging why you feel this ‘hate’ so that you can address the uncomfortable within.

‘I am sick’

Yes, we all have days when we fall under the weather, and ailments plague us, but it’s worth noting that you become what you consistently tell yourself you are and feel. Some days you can’t deny that you’re unwell, especially when you are swamped with extra stress. Instead of declaring ‘I am sick’, try ‘I am healing and I will rest’. This will slowly lift your mood and place your mind in a receptive mode to find resources to make you feel better and heal. I am not a doctor, and this is not a replacement for a medical appointment but to help support your thoughts as your body heals. 

Remember that there are no golden formula or shortcuts to reach your goals and deal with situations along your journey. It’s all about perspective and changing angles to understand the lessons hidden in the chaos. Be aware of what you want to embody and what you put out in the world and onto others. Keep going and find ways to enjoy the experience.

Until Next time.

Thoughts on food: The importance of cooking with purpose

When I think about cooking, I immediately think of my mother. For those who know me, know that my mother is the essence of my very being. Her meals are charged with high frequencies that pull me out of the deepest funk. Today, I will journal about the typical Seychellois dish that brings the family together. Even when we are far apart, this dish never fails to bring us joy. 

When I think about my family and Seychelles, I think about the Fresh Grilled Red Snapper with Spicy Creole Sauce, Fresh Rice and Green Pawpaw Satini Papay. The colours glazed on the dining table, evoking a feeling of security, love, joy and compassion. As I enjoy eating the meal, I have to include that watching (because sometimes it’s better to let the professionals get on with it) or helping my mother cook her exceptional dishes is also a magical experience. She chops her ingredients as though they were just picked from the garden, washes the fish with care and infuses positive intentions as she folds the seasoning in the Satini. This is an alchemy that my elder brother also uses and never fails to impress and envelope the devourers who usually ask for a second serving. And you know the food is really delicious when we sit in silence or get stuck in with our (clean) fingers. This is one way we show love for one another and the community. There’s plenty to extend a bowl of nourishment for our extended family. 

For the sweet-toothed, the traditional Ladob is usually a favourite after a Sunday lunch. The plantain and sweet potato, coconut milk, sugar and nutmeg is the foundation that brings warmth and a smile on my face reminiscent of the holiday cheer that compels me to top up my plate until bedtime. However, it’s not the type of dishes that make or break meal times, it’s the person’s energy that fulfils the purpose they want to convey. I find that it’s imperative to churn and actively add positive intention within every meal I cook as I want nothing but the best for my family and guests. 

I dedicate Today’s post to my mother, my big brother and my Seychellois ancestors.

Until next time. xo

Thoughts on turning 28

A lot of people fear the big 30 and whilst most are eager to celebrate the important landmark birthdays, there are a few people who either hated or loved their twenty-eighth birthday. First of all, I must reflect on how much I have achieved in one year. Never did I think I would write and publish five books, have a sustainable writing business and still have a tunnel vision for my goals. Yet, here I am, proud of what I have accomplished in a short space of time. Below are some thoughts from myself and loved ones on turning twenty-eight.

Making empowered decisions

Waking up on the right side of my twenty-eighth birthday, what a trip! I didn’t feel as elated as most people showcased on social media. I didn’t feel any different from the day before, and I have to admit that my mental strength was shaky with absurd self-expectations. Expectations of having a giant party, spending loads of money on things that weren’t conducive to my spiritual growth, my mental health or on people that weren’t on my frequency. Of course, looking back now I thought It was a bit ridiculous that I felt pressured by the standards socials created on one’s mental health, but that’s the thing with social media, mundane crap creeps up on your feeds and absorb your energy like a vampire. A light feeling from within then struck me with profound warmth that has stayed with me until now. It was an urge to journal my intentions and affirmations for my personal year, which in turn would empower me to make empowered decisions, in everything I do.

The vow to travel

A lot of people in my circle have said that turning twenty-eight presented more opportunities to travel and experience the world. This is mostly because they are or were settled in their careers with comfortable salaries that enabled them to get up and go. They felt that this was the time where they could really let go of expectations and revert back to their childhood selves. Although we are all aware that this experience is not the same for everyone.

Careers and confidence

This seems to be the common themes with people I’ve spoken to, where they felt more confident turning twenty-eight because their careers were taking off and were on track. On the other hand, some felt that it was the appropriate time to jump ship and change careers. Meanwhile, confidence also increased because they were gaining more experience to do things on their own. This confidence also built into self-knowledge, gaining a better insight into what it is that we want and how we perceive ourselves and the world.

Blooming friendships and support systems

Where would we be without the friends who have stuck by us through thick and thin? Surviving a birthday and life’s journey is doable on our own. However, the experience is fun with friends whom, we have accepted and those who nurture us in return. For most of us who have these superheroes in our lives, whether it’s one or one hundred; a healthy support system is part of a key that enables us to build confidence and feel secure.

Management of expectations

One of the popular thoughts on turning twenty-eight is usually panic and anxiety over being married and starting a family. This is exceptionally true for some people who feel they have a solid ground in their career yet, feel the pressure like they’ve fallen off track in their social life. “The pressure to start a family, as I’m aware of my biological clock and the feeling is very real”. Sure, society and family plays a role in our mental projection of when is the right time to get married and start a family; however, times have changed, and science has evolved. The most important note here is to realise that you need to have an internal assessment and awareness to ensure that you’re making decisions for you and not others. Chances are, family and friends will not pay your bills and childcare if you fall in an unfortunate financial crisis, and they are unlikely to pay for your wedding, that is, unless you’re from a wealthy and generous family. Marriage and raising children is not only financially taxing, but it’s also emotionally and spiritually testing too. If you are not aligned within yourself, and you haven’t healed from past trauma or detrimental habits, you have to take into account and assess if your environment and partner/s are conducive to your goals. Keep pushing through and take your time.

All the best

Thoughts on spirituality: Sometimes it’s the Full Moon

When was the last time you stopped and looked up at the sky? Yes, I’m entirely into observing the moon cycles and astrology in general. Ever since I was a child, I always sat on the veranda gazing at the moon and wondered about celestial mysteries. Now, I know and understand that whilst some would rather stick to trusting what their feet could feel on the ground, I was destined to awaken, explore the metaphysical, and find my purpose. The air around the new moon is exciting too, and of course, the new moon is just as important; however, I had always felt connected and resonant to the energy around each full moon. Sometimes it’s light or fun, but most times the energy leading up to the full moon is intense and chaotic, which makes it excruciating. If you’re a spiritual alchemist, you’ll know what I’m talking about. Each full moon is the midpoint and climax of the lunar cycle, during which the moon is opposite to the sun in the zodiac and is therefore fully illuminated by its light. Hence the intense energy! 

The days or even weeks leading up to a full moon, you may start to feel certain emotions boiling closer to the surface. Depending on the zodiac sign that the full moon is settled in within your natal chart, this energy will affect various areas in your life that require special attention. This will be the things that you need to nurture, re-evaluate, cleanse or release since the full moon brings projects, relationships and processes to a tipping point. Usually, it is a good idea to practise journaling, meditate or even have a relaxing bath- in general, any activity that is conducive to your mental, spiritual or emotional strength and endurance. Whatever you decide to do, ensure that you’re in a safe space. This is a time to reflect and harvest off the seeds you’ve planted in life or to shed thoughts, people and situations that no longer serve you. You may cry or just roll around in hysteric laughter, everyone is unique. If you would like to know more about the full moons or to dabble in a general astrology reading, just type in Full Moon readings on Youtube and pick a reader who resonates with you.

The upcoming full moon is in the sign of Taurus, which is rather unique and exciting because it falls on Halloween (31st October)! In general, this will impact the areas in your life relating to money. So you’re more likely to overspend on your budget and dip into your savings, or you may end up striking good fortune. Regardless, it’s good to be conscious about your finances and be grateful for your blessings. At the very least, look up at the sky and enjoy the illuminated beauty!

Happy Full Moon xo