I’m sure you’ve heard the saying, “your light attracts moths, and your warmth attracts parasites”. Energetically unbalanced people aren’t always negative, but in my experience, they do always bring chaos. Some are manipulative, and others are experts at gaslighting your emotions. The interesting thing is that when you take the time to look past the mask they wear or their armoured walls, you can see that these people are often broken from emotional trauma, usually from childhood which they refuse to address and heal.
We’re all a little chaotic at times, but we are focusing on the toxic people who refuse to see the pain they cause in others through their actions and words. They are particularly dangerous when you coexist with them in friendships, romantic relationships or family dynamics. I am not a therapist, nor am I an expert in dealing with these archetypes; however, I have experienced my fair share of chaotic encounters and have an opinion. What I have come to realise is that these people are genuinely self-centred. No, not self-loving, but merely they reside in self-hatred that they would go out of their way to ensure you become the same. Whether consciously or subconsciously, they break you down slowly with their manipulation and tantrums until you give in to their demands whilst you slowly lose pieces of yourself. Then you wake up one day and wonder why you feel exhausted all the time and realise that you’ve lost your passion for living life. Sometimes you may even start to develop physical or emotional aches and pains that don’t even belong to you.
Because you are in such proximity to these people, bending over backwards to make them happy, you start to embody what they are, as your world and theirs merge into one. Energetically, the dominant forces always win, and in this case, if you’re unaware of these archetypes, you indeed end up defeated by their chaos. If you think you have this person in your life, you need to be sure who you’re dealing with. Once you realise what they are, take measures to detach and protect your energy. You’ll have plenty of individuals come into your life throughout your lifespan, and I believe we meet different people who teach us lessons. However, having strong discernment is necessary to ensure that we learn these lessons quickly and move on with minimal damage to our psyche.
Until next time.