Spiritual thoughts: Solitude is a joy to experience

In a world that is digitally connected, most are disconnected from themselves. Being busy securing finances on the daily grind is now a part of everyday trends. I see it everywhere, from ideas on creating side hustles and passive incomes to how to manifest and live your best life. One of the positives, though, is that people are beginning to wake up and explore their purpose in this life. Some have handed in their job notice to create income working for themselves, using their talents. Some have jumped off the rat race, sold their belongings, and gone backpacking around the world. This post is not to say that you should do the same. Today, we are exploring the experience of solitude.

When we hear the word solitude, we may think that it is a way of shutting ourselves from the world, binging on Netflix and cake. Perhaps you may also think it’s sitting in a forest in the lotus position while chanting om. With balance, both scenarios are equally powerful because each of us is an individual, with our minds and spirits requiring various ways to process and heal our subconscious trauma. Just because someone is in the forest and the other is on the sofa, it doesn’t mean that one is better than the other. One just needs to be conscious of how one desires to be in solitude for optimum empowerment.

On the other hand, some people avoid solitude because they are afraid of what may come up when they’re alone. You can’t hide from yourself when you’re alone, so to many people, the idea of facing the darkest aspect of themself is scary. One example is that someone who has been hurt in their past may choose to surround themself with people who aren’t necessarily good for them because they are scared of facing the hurt that will surface when they are alone. Likewise, an unhealed person or someone who refuses to take steps to heal will avoid feeling emotions or engaging in conversations and activities that may bring up their past hurt. They choose distractions. And just like a sponge, the subconscious self absorbs all that you experience whether you want to or not. Eventually, it gets heavy and weighs you and your close relationships down. This is why it’s essential to speak, process and heal from emotional trauma.

Being in solitude is not just choosing to be alone to connect with oneself. Yes, it’s beneficial, especially when one is doing healing shadow work or aligning with one’s spiritual gifts. However, you can be around people and still revel in solitude. Some introverts have perfected the ‘my body is here, but my mind is at home’ that they seem to be super chill during a crisis because they have placed themselves in mental solitude that enables them to detach from their physical surroundings. We must be cautious, though. Being in solitude is helpful. However, choosing to hide away and detach out of fear is not always conducive. Yes, life is harsh, and sometimes we encounter people who viciously drain our energy, but we must stay empowered and strong to face our reality.

Until next time.

~J

Thoughts on self-care: My most loved survival items

Life happens. Even if you have a job you love, a great family unit, and a well-rounded human experience. That is just it. Life brings many experiences that sometimes have us reaching for our self-care items for survival. This can be a comfort blanket, a body scrub that energises our body, a favourite beverage or a cute journal to safely pen our thoughts. With spring and Taurus season slowly developing, providing us with the perfect backdrop for a lifestyle elevation in the name of self-care. If you’re looking for something new or a different perspective, my current ride or die faves are below.

Ah, books for the love of books.

My current reads are The Liar’s Wife by Kirsten Modglin, The Wicked Aftermath by Melissa Foster and The Vow by Debbie Howells.

Speaking of body scrubs…

If you’re currently in England, you’ll know that the weather’s doing this weird thing. Hot and promising summer one minute, then teasing cold and depressing another. This has caused my skin to be dehydrated and dull. So queue Sanctuary Spa’s Body scrubs. 

And the comfort blanket…

A heated blanket gets me through all the seasons since England is cold 90% of the year. I also work from home; therefore, it’s essential for me to be comfortably warm (sometimes toasty!) to reach my optimum productivity level.

The beauty product fave…

Everyone will have their preferences here, but for me, an excellent moisturising lipstick in nude and red is highly effective in making me feel good when my shoulders are heavy. My favourite nude is Charlotte Tilbury’s Pillowtalk in medium tone and Illamasqua’s Antimatter lipstick in the colour rocket. 

Plants are the new pets…

Well, not exactly, but we look after them like they are. My current house plant investments are medium-sized parlour palms, a Jade (succulents) plant from Wilkos and a remarkable lava rock plant. 

Vibing with nature

If you haven’t seen the entirety of my website, then feel free to browse and see some fantastic photos I’ve taken of nature with my NIKON COOLPIX P1000. I adore this camera, and I’m so grateful to have received it as a gift. 

Manifesting

Finally, if you want a road out of stagnancy, try using a goal-setting journal to manifest your best life.

Until next time.

~ J

Thoughts on strength: Remember your personal power!

We are often thrust into situations and relationships that are draining. We don’t realise that most times, such relationships, professional or otherwise, have the potential to take our personal power and drain our energy. You probably think that people can only take your power if we let them; however, such energetic transactions usually happen over time. It could be that you’re around a person or in a situation for a while where things transpire that chip away at your energy. What I mean by personal power is the personal gifts and abilities that make us unique in this world. Our confidence, the way we communicate and present ourselves to the world, our level of discipline, hunger and motivation for success, etc. Our personal power is what we embody and how we tell the world that we are here to make a difference.

So when we stay in circumstances that are delinquent, they tend to break down our energy until we wake up one day and realise that we’re walking through life lacklustre, wondering how we got to this point. This could be in relationships where you voluntarily change yourself, hoping that things will get better, only to see that efforts are one-sided. It can also be in intimate relationships, the relationship you have with your job or even with friends and family members. Sometimes, we give our energy externally without realising that the receiver is bleeding us dry. Then we find ourselves in a void of stagnancy. You either gained weight and can’t track how, fallen behind on your workload or projects, and have given up on maintaining a positive body image, which pulls your self-confidence, and you’ve forgotten your worth.

Firstly, when you realise that you’re losing your personal power, it’s time to take a step back and look at your life from all angles. Identify who or what is feeding off your energy. Sometimes this can also be a mental blockage created by a past trauma that you need to revisit and heal from. Then, once you’ve realised what it is that’s draining you, find a way to constructively address it or cut it out of your life. Suppose it’s a loved one or your job which you can’t just cut out of your life. Explore ways to manage them efficiently until you can make a final sustainable decision. Then, work on identifying what’s been taken from you. Have you neglected your physical or mental health? Your spiritual alignment? Your creativity? Etc. Once you do this, find ways to pour back in what you’re missing. Make regular time for yourself and do the work to replenish your vitality. This is not work that is completed overnight. It will require consistent effort to keep you stable and rebuild your confidence. Make a point to be more aware, track your progress, and focus on your growth.

We all waver sometimes. It’s natural to lose track of ourselves as we manoeuvre bumps in the road to personal success. However, when we start to feel the need to hide inside, isolate or overcompensate in the situation, that is when we need to wake up, assess and rebuild.

Until next time.

~J

Thoughts on attachment: It is what it is, learn to let it go

Life is a journey and not always a pleasant one. We meet people along the way, and most often, relationships are built in our childhood that shape our personalities, outlook and subconscious philosophies for the future. As we grow, so does our way of thinking, and it’s not uncommon that we find ourselves longing and reminiscing for connections from our past. Some of these relationships were placed in our path for a reason, whether we deem them good or bad. With some inner work and understanding, only you will know the reason. Sometimes, we long to reconnect with people from our past because they remind us of who we were at a certain point in time. Perhaps, you relish memories of someone from childhood because they remind you of a time when you were free to express yourself and manoeuvre life without the limitations that possibly plague us in adulthood. A job, managing finance, caring for others etc. Sometimes you may go back to connect with someone from the past even if the relationship didn’t end on good terms because you’re facing similar situations now. So your subconscious tries to re-run scenarios to gain wisdom from past lessons to deal with present circumstances.

Nonetheless, situations often occur because they need to for the development of our character and personal consciousness. And most of us are no stranger to experiencing the uncomfortable feelings and thoughts that lingers in the memory bank of past mistakes. But what can we do when such thoughts arise? We can sink deep with eternal dread under the duvet or face them, allowing our subconscious to process the emotions that come with such memories then let them go.

Some thoughts and memories take time to process. However, it’s not uncommon to feel a lingering sense of embarrassment and doom as we heal. Find ways to ease the process and comfort yourself. Maybe even use techniques to divert your attention towards the positives of life, such as journaling, meditating and speaking to a counsellor without judgement. Life’s merciless, and it doesn’t get easier. We just find ways to better navigate the self and circumstances. So take your time and trust in your process. The light at the end of the tunnel isn’t too far out.

Until next time.

~J

Thoughts on vibes: Watch out for the energy vampire (Sometimes it’s you!)

You’ve heard the term Energy Vampire, and I’m sure you know what it means, but for those of you who don’t, see below.

A person who boosts his own energy by taking energy from others by means of an argument, belittlement, criticism or other one-sided conversation. – Urban Dictionary

It is widespread to have interactions with energy vamps. Even if you live alone and work from home, as long as you have the technology, social media, television etc., your energy is getting drained from somewhere. However, it’s not impossible to deal with them. You just need to know your stance in life and have a solid sense of self. Here are some quick tips to help you manage energy vampires.

Set firm, healthy boundaries.

No is a complete sentence. Have a clear vision of what and who you want to engage with in your life. Evaluate situations before you say yes, and don’t be afraid of saying no. Most times, when you’re coming from an honest space, you’ll find that you won’t need to make up excuses or apologise for saying no. Of course, the right people will understand your boundaries, and the wrong people will have a problem with it, but still, the answer is no.

Be aware.

Make an effort to tune into your surroundings and listen to people. Sometimes it could be that an energy vampire chooses to dump their funk on you because they don’t have anyone else to talk to. Maybe they need nurturing and love. You can choose to meet them with love but at your own pace. Don’t insert yourself into a counselling role if you are not equipped. Instead, you can lovingly encourage them to book an appointment with a professional.

Have self-awareness.

Perhaps you’ve had a horrible day at work, fought with a loved one or just felt funky. This doesn’t mean that other people are open and ready to listen to your rants. Have regular check-ins with yourself. Tune into your needs and find ways to meet them. Yes, you can speak to people but have the self-awareness to ensure you’re not draining their energy. 

Be honest.

When you feel uncomfortable around someone or drained by specific interactions, be honest with yourself and accept that maybe they’re not the person you need to be around at that moment. Usually, people get the hint when you’re ready to withdraw and move on from situations; however, some people are stuck in their bubble. Be constructive and positive, letting them know that you have to leave. 

Until next time.

Thoughts on success: It’s not over, keep going.

Just as you thought you were making progress, the world you’ve worked hard to create and build crumbles from under your feet. It could be a situation that caught you off-guard, someone’s attempt to drain your energy and steal your power. Maybe you lost yourself in an argument, stooped to the lower level to get your point across but failed to stay in alignment with your higher self. It’s okay. Life happens. There’s time to detach, breathe and re-evaluate. The most important thing to remember is that you will be okay. Muster self-awareness to see where you could improve, understand the situation from all angles, heal. As we enter the new year, set intentions that are in alignment with your goals and don’t let anyone stand in the way of your execution. Keep going.

Until next time.

Thoughts on self-care: 15 ways to affordably practise self-care

Ah, self-care! What a lovely way to take some time, recharge and connect with the self. Self-care can improve your happiness and align you with your relationships, friendships, and all things that unravel in your daily life. Self-care has been a massive part of my daily routines since I was a teenager, and I’ve learned that it doesn’t have to be expensive. Everyone deserves to feel good and their best. So continue reading the points below for ideas on practising self-care affordably.

Place yourself in positions that brings joy.

Whether you’re choosing to hang out with your loved ones, choosing a new job or venture, it is essential to ensure that you find joy in all that you do. There’s no point in placing yourself in situations that will make you unhappy. Sometimes it’s easier said than done. However, you should try to reevaluate your circumstances and plan positive change.

Read this book

Okay, it wouldn’t be a J.P. Mooney blog if I didn’t inject my own work. But on a serious note, I worked on this ebook to incorporate Neuro linguistic Programming strategies that will help get you where you need to be.

Play with your skincare product

No, don’t throw them around the room and make a mess. Instead, you can make time to use your skincare products as part of your daily routine. Lotions and potions moisturise your skin, although you can also use them to massage your face and body to release tension. Scented products can also elevate your mood, but it’s best avoided if you have allergies and sensitivity. If you don’t already have skincare products, there’s an abundance of good quality and affordable brands you can research and try.

Draw Something

Even if you don’t have fancy art supplies, take a pen or pencil with a blank piece of paper, let go and start sketching. This is therapeutic as it allows your mind to focus on being in the present.

Play With Art Supplies/ Paint

Similar to the above, if your budget allows it, grab some art supplies to create your very own masterpiece. Get in touch with your feelings and pour them on a canvas. Or, get your hands on an adult colouring book.

Buy or Create Bird Feeders

Photo by J.P. Mooney

You’ll be surprised and thrilled to know that you can attract wildlife into your garden and the neighbourhood. You can do this by creating or purchasing affordable bird feeders and food to hang on a tree or fence. I first hung a bird feeder on a large tree in the garden, and within two days, it attracted a variety of colourful wild birds. Hearing their sound is also high vibrational and calming.

Walk in Nature

Whether you have a small patch of green by your house, in a garden, or you have access to a majestic forest, connecting to nature is undoubtedly a great approach to self-care.

Do Some Gardening

There’s a great sense of satisfaction when you see your plants bloom in season.

Meditate or Just Sit Still

If you don’t know about meditation by now, then you’re in for a whirlwind of surprises. Meditation relaxes your mind and can support healing. Meditation can be adapted to meet your needs. There are various ways to practice, research and find one that suits you.

Light A Scented Candle

A scented candle can instantly change the atmosphere in your home and elevate your mood.

Spray Perfume

Likewise, a natural body fragrance or room spray will instantly make you feel good.

Use Essential Oils

Riveting orange, relaxing lavender or earthy patchouli…You’re in for a treat. More information here.

Read My Mated Fortune Series

Read Contemporary Poetry

Read Free Blogs

Reading is a great way to explore current world affairs, gain knowledge and expand consciousness. The beauty of technology is that you can read pretty much anything from anywhere. By reading blogs, you also show support to the content creators and contribute to their online visibility while enjoying the content you love.

Until next time.

Thoughts on survival: How to preserve your energy during the holiday season

We are now in the holiday season, and regardless of your beliefs, you’re bound to be surrounded by people who feed off your energy. Energy vampires are not always a threat, especially when you have mastered yourself and set healthy boundaries; however, during this time of year, it’s pretty difficult to avoid them if they’re your family members or run in the same social circles. Below are a few tips to help you master your energy so that you can recognise when to set boundaries and protect your mind, body and spirit.

Let go of self-judgement.

Sometimes we have negative thoughts that surface in our minds, and as much as it is vital to stay positive, it’s also important to acknowledge them. You can do this by writing a journal to express your emotions and thoughts without judgment. This will enable you to let go of suppressed feelings and accept circumstantial occurrences as they are. Journaling also helps you see the thoughts and situations from a fresh angle, allowing you to see what steps to action.

Sip relaxing tea.

Several herbal teas can help you recline into relaxation. You often do not see how tensed and stressed your body is because you’re busy with your daily responsibilities. So when you feel overwhelmed, take a break to sip some hot tea that is also healing. Peppermint, rose, lemongrass & ginger (my favourite) or green tea for a subtle energy boost.

Go into your quiet corner.

Whenever you feel your energy being drained during social events, allow yourself a moment to retreat into a quiet space to recharge and breathe. Sometimes, we feel like we have to please others and grace them with our undivided attention although, it’s essential to ensure our batteries are fully charged.

Plan gatherings 2-3 days apart.

Everyone’s starting to book time off and making plans for holiday dinners. Whether it’s for professional or leisurely meetings, try to plan activities 2-3 days apart, as this will give you enough time to recharge your energy and reevaluate in preparation for further upcoming events.

Take time to reflect.

Are you the energy vampire? It’s easy to claim we are affected by other people’s actions and habits; however, it’s difficult to face ourselves. Therefore, taking time out for reflection is essential, and it is a constructive approach to analysing our habits and actions. This way, you become one step closer to mastering yourself, making understanding and coexisting with others more palatable.

Indulge in the small luxuries.

Take time to enjoy the small luxuries in life, such as sipping a cup of gooey hot chocolate, tasting a delicious tipple or just going for a walk in nature to enjoy the crisp air when the sun is out.

Don’t avoid hermit mode.

It’s perfectly fine to decline invitations. It’s also okay if you prefer to revel in hermit mode because, understandably, this time of year can become quite stressful. However you decide to spend your time, ensure that you are doing what is best for you and creating a safe space of comfort.

Until next time.